When Andrea started out, some 12 years ago ~~~ she had allot of things wrong, Jennie & I helped her learn the physical about this horse, gaits, for example…She had and has a very strong sense of wanting to help the horse but she also wants to punish the wrong doers.
She was and is strong in her ways I nicknamed her and called her “Xena, The Warrior Princess” in our private emails.
Our problem has been of HOW, more than What, Where and Why?
I have no lies to spread about this woman, she is not that important to me in my life, besides, spreading lies about someone to me means you feel beaten by that person and you want to elevate yourself and the best way to do that besides earning it is to tear down the other person, so you remain on top.
Do not need to do that with her ~~~ I still maintain that she has great value to the cause, but she just gets so mad at things and people, she becomes nasty in my eyes, leaves little room for actual discussions or dialogue.
Andrea, to me I have no desire nor have I said it that you should leave, my point all along has been basically, “Hate the Sin, but Love the Sinner”
Yesterday, I’m at the Southern Bonanza, when a lady who used to be so into Lickin horses, she purchased her second home in a really nice gated community caddy-corner to the Celebration grounds,
We used to show against her allot, we used to fight very vocally in TWHBEA Board meeting for several years, she and the folks she ran with HATED! me. HATED!!!
Well, when we took Dressage en Gaite to TWHBEA, she rode in a couple of classes…she liked it, went out an purchased a horse that had not been molested with as her dressage and also flat shod showing horse…
She got hooked, sold her lickin horses, started taking dressage lessons in FLA, and not is one of the biggest pushers within her community of lickers making converts.
Yesterday we laughed, about our past relationship ~~~ I ask myself, would that ever happened if I had taken the hard line of persecuting, condemning her
I don’t think so, ~~~~ ya wanna know when I started learning bout this? After coming home from the war, in 1975 Viet Nam fell, a whole lot of people received asylum here in the states…
I started running into Vietnamese men of fighting age, ~~~I had hateful thoughts towards them, but started the process an understanding how I would have been should someone came to my home and did what we did to theirs.
But you see, I am much older than Andrea, more life experiences under my belt, I can see a little more clearer than she, and I would be patient in helping her get to a place as I of eradicating the problems and leaving the source in place to re cultivate a more desirable crop.
I am not fighting as some see my comments, I am trying to help her understand a different way of approaching all of this, and with her, ya gotta get down, for her to begin to hear ya…point specific things out to her which you can gauge where she is at by the tone and contents of her comments.
Everything will be alright, yes, it will
The Preacher