Sorry for the long essay. This may be a TL;DR for some.
I have had to take a deep breath and compose myself… and hold off posting this topic for a couple of days. Just to make sure it did not come across as an irate stream-of-consciousness raging rant. I may have still failed in that attempt.
A friend of a friend (I know her from showing but we are not BFFs - let’s call her B) sold her little farm and advised our mutual friend that she was going to have her 3 remaining horses (these are minis) put down as opposed to having the inconvenience of trying to find them new homes. Needless to say, C (the mutual friend and my farrier) was upset and said that she would take them - and NOT to do that. B said okay but they needed to be gone by Nov. 10 … or else. Yes, she pulled the old The Truck Is Coming excuse/threat.
C scrambled to rearrange her very tight schedule - trailer brakes needed to be fixed and then the truck had some minor issues… all that was being taken care of and B was made aware of the delay. B now moved the Absolutely Last Possible Day to Nov. 15. C worked to get the truck and trailer sorted out (because it never rains but it pours), rearranged farrier appointments… and B advised her that the Absolutely Last Date was now the 20th. She and her husband were leaving on the 30th.
C was feeling happy to get the horses out of there. We were annoyed with B - these are not old minis. Two very sweet mares - retired show horses - pinto (17) who drives and silver bay (19). One chestnut gelding (15) who had colic surgery a couple of years ago but has been doing well. The gelding is/was B’s heart horse that she constantly raved about and allegedly adored - out of my BO’s breeding when she still had minis. He was a stallion until after the colic surgery. He drives, he won many halter championships - finding him a great home would be a no-brainer. C knew he would be amazing with her 4Hers. He was stunning with a temperament to match. Horses’ paperwork was in order - Coggins and health certs done.
Monday (the 15th) morning, C called B to say she would be leaving the next morning (16th) and would be there to pick them up by late afternoon/early evening. B said great - and went on and on about her heart horse and how she loved him and would miss him but he would still be loved and appreciated yada yada yada. Oh, and the mares too.
Late Monday night (deep breath) B texts C and tell her not to bother coming - the gate will be locked if she tries and the horses are being put down at 9:30 the next morning.
All hell broke loose.
C was upset and crying on the phone - I had the opposite reaction and wanted to call B and let her have it. I held off - hoping she had just overacted to something that maybe her husband had whined about - and would change her mind. So much for her heart horse. It seems that after all these years he was just an inconvenience and an accessory to be discarded whenever it suited her. Those horses had a place to go - a soft landing. They would be loved despite being older and shaggy. They would not be accessories. They would be family.
I cooled off enough to call B and urged her to reconsider and told her they would be loved etc. She told me to eff off and hung up on me. C called her and tearfully pleaded/begged for the horses again … she noted that the deadline was still a few days away - what difference would ONE DAY make!!! She could be there later on Tuesday!!
B hung up. Then texted that we were not to tell anyone about this. C called one more time to plead. B’s husband answered the phone and said B was in the barn and never wanted to speak to C again. I should point out that C showed B’s horses in the past and started them in harness and taught B to drive… and considered her a friend.
So here it is - Thursday afternoon. Not a word from B. C is extremely upset. I am LIVID.
B has one horse left - a 4 year old colt (out of the heart horse and the silver bay mare) who is boarded at another barn. That BO had also offered to take the other 3 in and care for them. How long until that colt is an inconvenience?
I am heartbroken and very angry. C is still very upset - at the betrayal of a friend and the loss of those 3 horses. They deserved better. They did nothing wrong. They were not trinkets in a shelf that you can toss in the garbage when you tire of them.
Are we overreacting? Not our horses, not our call, right? Except it was agreed that they were leaving with C… WTF is wrong with people!!!
Thoughts and opinions are welcome. If I was out of line - please let me know.