It’s coming up two years since I first bought my mare (OTTB) and I don’t know what to do.
We’ve boarded at 3 different barns and she’s only kept sound at 1 where she’s been pretty much stalled for most of the day. This does not work for this horse mentally - the horse started rearing on handlers when brought inside. On top of that she is a difficult ride and requires a very experienced rider and being out helps her rideability a lot.
We brought her out to a full field board and she flourished massively. Rideability improved a lot. She actually put on a lot of muscle and her mental and physical health really improved. Now that I’ve figured out how to mentally manage this horse, I cannot keep this horse even pasture sound. People joke that she just loves the extra attention and that retired thoroughbred life or as my coach says “she’s not the working kind”. In the two years I’ve had her (large group turnout, small group turnout, single horse turnout - doesn’t matter):
- Stone bruise - 6 weeks
- 2 abscesses - each 2 weeks
- Massive cut due to getting tangled in electric fence - 4 months stall rest
- 4 pulled shoes and bruised soles - probably 2 months total
- Splint that has not healed for almost 2 months. More rehab.
Vet asked to see if she’s still lame on her splint today. So I go see her and I found her 3 legged lame and swollen ON ANOTHER LEG tonight. Looks like a puncture wound. She’s out there with 2 other geriatric horses. I have no idea how she accomplishes this.
I have a full time job, small kids at home and I honestly don’t have time to keep rebandaging, cold hosing and the endless vet appointments. I just gave her some bute and left her at that. I am exhausted. Money is not so much the problem, but the time, the mental drain and unpredictability of it all just really weighs on me.
For the last year I have managed to ride this horse maybe 20 times and I’ve spent well over the purchase price in vet bills. Bringing her back into work is not fun because she loses muscle fast and is a bit of a dragon after stall rest (bucking and all).
I can’t “retire” her because riding is not a problem - she’d probably die if I just left her on a field within half a year. No limitations except her suicidal tendencies. She’s extremely talented and athletic but a very technical ride so would be a tough sale. I have met only 2 other people who can ride her OK. Some stable vices. Basically she’s an excellent candidate for ending up in a terrible situation.
Part looking to vent and part looking for actual advice. WWYD?