I have a 11yr old ottb, and she is a hot one. I ride her in a happy mouth peanut roller bit and she is very sensitive in the mouth. She previous barn was a small private facility at her owners house and she was a perfect lady there. She was calm, she would stretch down into her striding, never knock a rail, NEVER refuse a jump. She was the perfect horse, really.
We moved to a larger competition barn at the end of October and she was awesome there for the first month or so. But suddenly her demeanor changed. She turns into a giraffe and holds her head up to high that she almost head butts me in the nose. She avoids any contact really. She rushes to jumps. I keep catching her in the mouth cause I try to slow her down and she gets a bad distance, or I see the distance but then she flies through my hands and leaves me behind. and today at our lesson, she refused on me for the first time ever! At least a half a dozen times too, and the jump wasn’t even 2’3.
I know never to blame the horse for anything, and I’m starting to think I’m a bad rider and I’m starting to lose my confidence and she’s started to lose hers as well. I dont trust myself, so then I don’t trust her to get the striding and I get nervous, even though she is built amazingly, has the stamina and balance to do anything. It hurts me because I want to do eventing next show season and if I can’t even get her around a 2’9 course without her ducking out on me, I dont think I can do any showing at all. Please help!!