Greetings, all! Long time reader, first time poster here.
I’m trying to find out if I just have bad horse radar or what. Over the span of 5 years…
I bought a “broke trail horse” from a horse dealer w/no advice from anyone. I rode the horse around the property alone. He seemed fine. I bought him, took him to the barn, he freaked out when ridden inside and outside & became dangerous. BO and my instructor were convinced he was drugged when I tried him out. After thousands of dollars in training and vet checks, I was urged to sell him before he hurt someone in the barn (sold w/full disclosure of his behaviors, of course).
Next horse was sold to me as a trail horse. I rode her on property w/no issues. Brought her home (boarding barn), she hated being outside. Turns out she was a vaulting horse in her previous life, so after two years of arena riding w/her, I sold her to a vaulting family. I bought her on the advice from my BO.
Next horse was sold to me as a “broke trail horse” as well w/the blessing of my instructor (not her fault, of course). The horse was, again, fine when we rode on property. I brought him home (where I boarded), and it turned out he was incredibly buddy sour. It was manageable b/c the barn was w/in eyesight all the time. It turns out he was a heck of a great lesson horse as my instructor used him many times each week w/her students, but since I’ve moved him to my house, he’s become dangerously barn sour w/my Haffie (and is becoming nasty as hell toward her).
***NOTE: I can handle spooky, nervous, cranky, bored, and lazy horses. What I don’t have the confidence to handle is dangerous (like my current steed). I’ve taken numerous lessons over the years (and still take them to this day). I know about groundwork, etc. The first two horses were sold to me under false pretenses so I don’t feel too badly about buying them (although I should’ve insisted on further trying out), but the third is just a case of buddy sour that I unfortunately cannot fix alone. I know realize that I need to get a horse on trial here on my property to make sure he’s a good fit.
So… do I just have terrible luck finding one that fits me? Honesty, I don’t have a lot of confidence anymore. I’m 40, and I have a new knee, two small children, and a husband who would like me to survive my hobby. But…am I crazy for wanting a quiet, sane trail horse to just poke around on for a while one or two days a week? Do they exist? My hubby made a joke the other day about how many horses can a person go through before they find the “right” one…and I guess that’s my question as well? Please be honest, but kind. Thank you all in advance!