You share simple facts only.
“She never passed left shoulder to left shoulder” or “she left her horse on crossties for hours” or whatever the issues were, without emotion. Add in the positive facts too.
It gives BO something to ask the barn she’s leaving or other riders who may know her about .
And they don’t presently know you’re honest, but they’ll learn you are eventually.
It is the BO’s job to investigate a perspective boarder if that is something they care to do.
Asking a fellow boarder isn’t reliable information but getting references from previous boarding barns is.
I’m not sure that’s accurate.
BOs can lie or get it wrong just as easily as Boarders can.
Especially if they want an annoying PITA gone.
I’d just say, “I came here to get away from you, please do not come here and ruin this one for me too.”
Well I guess if it was a problem boarder then the current BO may be happy to lie and get rid of them!
I didn’t think of that.
I knew someone who had some sort of autism or neurodivergent disorder who behaved similarly to the person you are describing. People with these “disorders” often have difficulty understanding social norms and cues and therefore will sometimes act inappropriately. I was always patient with her even when she started to get on my nerves because I knew she didn’t mean to. And I always had to be really direct with her because she never caught on to hints, metaphors, or “speaking in riddles” as I like to call it. If you stay silent, there’s a possibility that this person will just show up one day, so I would just be honest.
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