I wasnât being flippant
Addiction is bad. Doesnât make a difference whether itâs booze, pills, food, sex, whatever.
My only point was, that the officials at the race track CAN INDEED insist on not only compliance, but how that needs to be achieved if thatâs what they feel like doing. Because itâs their show, they have the ârightâ to do any thing they want, whether itâs fair, whether itâs punitive, whether heâll resent it and ânot take it seriouslyâ or not. He doesnât have to do it, but, essentially, whether anyone agrees with it or not, itâs pretty much their way or the highway. If he wants to race at that track, he has to do it their way.
As a health care professional, Iâm not sure alcoholism is a disease process or a behavior pattern, any more than drug abuse is. If that is true, then obesity is a disease too, though most believe itâs easier to push yourself away from the table and the twinkies than it is to beat booze or drugs. Many of the bodies chemical responses in the âfeel goodâ department are similar.
People in high risk careers and lifestyles, tend to do many things to excess, on the edge, that risk taking behavior is one of the things necessary for them to have, the fearlessness, that allows them to go where ânormalâ people wonât. Can I gallop a race horse at racing speed? BTDT at the track. Gate schooled the youngsters? Check. Ridden in a race? Oh, no. Just not that fearless, even at a young age, Iâd seen the result of too many race falls on horses and people, no thanks. While I refuse to parachute out of a perfectly good aircraft, whitewater rafting on class 5 rivers didnât bother me at all. Everyone has an edge where they cross out of their comfort level. Some people have a vary narrow comfort zone. Some people live so far over the edge, theyâve never been out of their comfort zone, no matter what.
Until they get slapped with 60 days, in house, no booze. That is probably out of Tylerâs comfort zone, because at that point, heâs relinquished control to someone else, and admitted he has a limit on his behavior. The same thing that makes him a wonderful rider, means that he lives his life so close to the edge every single moment, that itâs easy to step across the line without even seeing it.
If anyone can think of a famous jock, especially an American, born and bred here, that hasnât admitted to some form of problem with booze, drugs or purging, youâve got one on me, because I honestly canât.
Someone very dear to me was an alcoholic for over 30 years. He woke up one morning, decided being hung over sucked and called AA. Went to a meeting ,lots of meetings, for several years, and has been sober for the last 13 years, simply never touched another drop. Didnât have DTâs, didnât relapse, nothing, just decided he didnât like being drunk every night any more, and stopped. That said, most of us know someone from our 20âs, who, if 30 years later, we went to our local bar, that same person would still be there, well lit at the bar, just like it was 1983. Why? Whoever knows.
I think that if someone runs out of excuses, has no one or nothing left to blame and truly wants to give up addictive behavior that anyone, no matter how addicted or how long theyâve been addicted, can get clean and sober if they want it bad enough.