THIS X1,000,000!
There is no substitute for having eyes on your horses instead of relying on a barnworker being savvy enough to notice something is NQR.
I boarded horses from 1989 to 2004, at several different barns. Ranging from the “show” barn where I kept my Hunter to a family-run 4H-geared place (where DH & I were the H/J & Dressage oddballs) & finally another smaller barn run by husband & wife (he turned out to be The Problem).
All the time I boarded, horses lived at least 1h away in the burbs. DH & I lived in a major Big City, commuting 4X a week to lesson or ride.
As a re-rider in my early 30s, I took up riding again at a barn in that city, so commute from work to ride was less than 1h.
I also worked there briefly as a Working Student in exchange for lessons, so I had some understanding of what horsekeeping entailed.
I moved to my 5ac farmette in 2004 (after DH died) & have never looked back.
I agree Winter can suck bigtime, but I’m in my 70s now & I manage Midwest Winters.
Slower, but still manageable.
I have had 3 sets of 2 geldings here until I added a mini I drive in 2016.
All 3 get along fine.
Farm is arranged for my convenience.
Horses are turned out 24/7/365 with access to stalls if they want. They rarely want.
Even now, when temps are starting to get into the 40s daytime, they spend more time Out than In. Evidenced by the small # of piles I pick from stalls.
I am fortunate to have great neighbors who are also my hayguys.
I let them store loaded wagons in my indoor over the Summer & in return get bargain-basement hay prices. I feed 1st cut orchard grass, occasionally some timothy or clover in the bales. My pastures are Meh, rarely anything approaching lush, but sufficient so hay consumption goes way down when there’s grass.
The son is now a friend (I call him my Faux Grandson) and has located an excellent source for bedding: 60# bags of fine shavings for $4/bag - that he hauls for both of us in my stock trailer. Last load of 40 bags was picked up in late November, I still have 12 bags left.
Farmsitter is part-owner of a nearby feedstore.
Before him, I had a series of young gals who left for one reason or another - school, moved, etc.
I have never had to cancel a vacation & have spent as long as 10 days - in China - away from the farm. Long weekends are no problem.
I take the mini to Fair for 4 days & The National Drive for as long as 5.
I worked 4DW when I moved here & was fortunate to find a job less than 15mi from the farm w/great bosses who understood my occasional need to call off or take a longer lunch to take care of something horse.
I’ve been retired since 2013.
My current Plan B is to attach a Tiny House to my indoor & never have to go outdoors in bad weather.