What would you do? I’m going through some extremely stressful times that while they will not last forever are some of the hardest times in my life. It’s overwhelming and it’s really hard to get through. Because I’m so overwhelmed I’m not sure my thinking is super clear right now so I thought I would come to the really wise coth forum.
The biggest thing is dealing with a family crisis/medical issue 5 months ago. I can’t really get into details but it was major life-changing stuff and while things are definitely looking up our savings is gone. We also have some debt that was not my doing. But it needs to be paid. Luckily my husband makes about $125k a year and I work part-time (stay at home mom mostly.) I am looking into going back to work full-time to help as our daughter is getting older, and I no longer have to take care of my grandmother like I did for all these years. This is a major stressor and while we are trying to build it back up, Life is really pouring down. And it really adds salt into the wound because there is a reason I wanted to have a savings account. But it’s gone and it’s not my fault and there’s nothing I can do about that part.
We found out that our roof needs to be replaced after a season of constant hail. My insurance is barely covering anything because of the age of the roof. My dog has been having stomach issues for 5 months. He doesn’t act sick but we’ve been to the vet constantly as he’s just high maintenance in general. He’s always getting hurt, bit by a spider and now he’s clearly having some GI issues. We’ve been working with the vet and we have a plan but it’s been stressful and expensive. Thankfully my other dog has mostly been low maintenance.
My horse has been having stifle issues and here we are again dealing with it. He was not in work for a few months because life was just way too heavy and traumatic for me. But he’s lame and I’m trying to work with the vet to figure out what to do. I think an ultrasound and something like Prostride It’s likely what would be needed… And that’s expensive. We’ve done it before but our situation is different.
My daughter also needs braces and she just informed me that she’s out of her contacts that she needs for medical reason. Thankfully we have a medical account that we are building back up to help cover this but it is not going to cover it all.
My husband also needs tires desperately on his car.
We make enough money to cover our bills comfortably but when you add on some medical debt and multiple emergencies at once, I’m feeling extremely overwhelmed.
Besides working as much as possible and selling things (I just sold a saddle And I’m looking to sell one more. As well as other old tack that I don’t need.) Is there anything else obvious of what I should do?
I typically like to do everything but kind of a gold standard but my therapist is telling me that right now I need to let that go a little. But it’s creating extra stress on me. You can’t always do everything by the gold standards sometimes it needs to be good enough.
Thank you. I’m sorry if this is jumbled.