I ride Dressage, and I’ve gotten comments about how it’s a "gay sport and men who ride Dressage and horses are gay, where did this stigma come from? Is it because we wear tight white breeches and tall boots? I have nothing against people who are gay, I’m not gay myself though.
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I ride Dressage, and I’ve gotten comments about how it’s a "gay sport and men who ride Dressage and horses are gay, where did this stigma come from? Is it because we wear tight white breeches and tall boots? I have nothing against people who are gay, I’m not gay myself though.[/QUOTE]
how old are you?
weird post, but anyways, a high % of men who ride dressage are gay.
who cares though?
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I ride Dressage, and I’ve gotten comments about how it’s a "gay sport and men who ride Dressage and horses are gay, where did this stigma come from? Is it because we wear tight white breeches and tall boots? I have nothing against people who are gay, I’m not gay myself though.[/QUOTE]
So do show jumpers and eventers.
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I have nothing against people who are gay, I’m not gay myself though.[/QUOTE]
Did you vote for Trump?? :lol: :lol: :lol:
Why do people think that all men who ride english are gay?
OK, warmbloods know one guy who is not gay and rides and shows jumpers. And know lots of great gay guys who ride english.
As an aside, surprised to learn over a decade ago that one of the western disciplines (not barrel but one of the others) has a lot of gay guys according to a western/paint rider originally from Wisconsin who showed up there. Also had a friend whose 3rd husband, a western roper, came out and got a divorce.
But who cares who sleeps with whom unless you are interested in more than friendship? A good rider is a good rider, gay or straight. I don’t think the horses care a bit.
Its an american thing. In Germany there are a lot of males riding and they are not gay for sure 
This thread reminds me of the saying that “real men don’t have room for a saddle horn.”
Just sayin’
I doubt very much that very many people think that every male who rides dressage is gay, nor do I think it would be a stigma if they were.
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I doubt very much that very many people think that every male who rides dressage is gay, nor do I think it would be a stigma if they were.[/QUOTE]
Quite.
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I ride Dressage, and I’ve gotten comments about how it’s a "gay sport and men who ride Dressage and horses are gay, where did this stigma come from? Is it because we wear tight white breeches and tall boots? I have nothing against people who are gay, I’m not gay myself though.[/QUOTE]
My trainer and a straight male clinician explaining to the clinic hostess why said clinician had to change prior to heading to the airport: “Men shouldn’t walk around in boots and breeches in public. It looks good on women, but is likely to get men hurt.” :lol: It definitely loses something in type, but it was hilarious at the time.
Only reason I care, personally, is because I’m single and attracted to men. 
Given the struggles I’ve seen with couples who are both into horses trying to get along around horses, that means I care very little, as if I were to pick what the guy I fall for does it would be some OTHER expensive and time consuming hobby.
it isn’t just dressage, I grew up riding jumpers and smart girls just assume the men are actually gay until you hear otherwise or they hit on you. this is “smart” because then you don’t get all emotionally invested in a totally unavailable man. I don’t know anyone who cares really, but why waste time with love, just be friends.
However, I’ve always thought that it is very smart for straight men to ride dressage or jumpers because they often have their pick of a very large litter.
I think the horse world has been very accepting of gay riders for a VERY long time. at least since I was a kid.
Maybe it’s like figure skating and dance. A lot of the males are gay sompeople just start making assumptions. You know where assumptions get you.:.
Is this the same guy who is always posting about his tight white breeches obsession? Used to post under a different name?
Only reason I care, personally, is because I’m single and attracted to men
My thought exactly. in my younger days I hung out quite a bit w/ my hunter trainer who is gay, and we had a number of similar non-horse interests. I often thought then - wow, too bad for me.
But now everyone is younger, so it matters not!
Based on the wording of the question (and the need for it in the first place) I suspect the good neighbors he’ll find on grindr can help the OP sort his issues, better than can the COTH viewership. No matter how well-intentioned the COTHers may be.
This phenomenon that the OP is describing is probably a reflection on the American ideals of masculinity rather than dressage or the American equestrian community itself.
Most of the hetero men that I know who ride are eventers or show jumpers or fox hunters. They’re out there doing tough men stuff, going fast and jumping big things. I’ve met one heterosexual dressage rider. He told me that he got into dressage because he thought it was the most “elitist” of the disciplines. Go figure.
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Did you vote for Trump?? :lol: :lol: :lol:[/QUOTE]
??? It must be funny because of all the laugh icons, but I don’t get it. 
I hope you’re talking about barn kitties! :eek: Because if you’re talking about human beings, that is a very sexist remark.
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I hope you’re talking about barn kitties! :eek: Because if you’re talking about human beings, that is a very sexist remark.[/QUOTE]
I think you’re reading too much into this common joke. The guy in a barn with 30 gals has a good chance of finding a relationship there. Not so much for the 30 girls at the barn that are all swooning over one guy. Not sexist; just math.
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Its an american thing. In Germany there are a lot of males riding and they are not gay for sure :)[/QUOTE]
Same in Spain. Not only are most guys that ride dressage straight, but my unofficial impression is that most dressage riders are guys.
