General comment.
The gap between the upper and upper middle class and rest of us especially in the USA has gotten huge in the past 20 years. Apparently back where things were in 1890s, all the gains in egalitarians 9f the 20th century wiped out. And the poor are very poor. Much of this money is new. Celebrities, tech, finance and international flight capital, drug profits. Aa
This has created a world wide luxury class for whom a whole teir of goods and experiences have been created.
Things that have gone crazy expensive in the past decades include land, vacations makeup skin care designer handbags watches and high end hunter horses. Because hunter is the default discipline for wealthy juniors and the current trainer centered model works for those with more money than time.
However money was always a huge advantage. We tell children you can be anything you want so they don’t get discouraged but we adults always know it’s not true.
There’s lots of threads on here of folks saying they have a 6 figure income and are still priced out of the true A hunters. Not just the horse but the board training show fees and long shows.
Just like you can’t really buy a house in my city with a low 6 figure income. Or a Lamborghini or a Rolex or a Hermes handbag.
It can be a big shock to come up against adult realities that you are priced out of much of what’s shown on Instagram and that raw work ethic is not the whole picture. But there’s no point being bitter about it. You just have to find your niche where you can afford to play.