They are. Read CBoylen’s post with an open-mind.
I can think of a couple of “diagnoses” for your problem and the pros’ silence from what you have written so far.
- Email might not be these trainers’ forte. They probably don’t have time to answer long emails. Try getting in touch in one of the “short hand” media-- texting, PM, e-mail if they have a website that lets you generation one, explaining briefly what your riding experience is and what you are looking for, and then ask if you can come out and watch them teach a lesson.
You will learn a lot more about their program, and they can meet you. I find that these conversations go better in person than via e-mail. If you feel put off by their frank, cut-to-the-chase talk about goals and huge annual budgets, it think you have suffered from the nature of e-mail meet-in-greets, too.
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Be careful in word and in thought about disssing schoolies and lesson mills. Just because you have financially Arrived, doesn’t mean you don’t need to master the basics, just like anyone else. And, not for nuthin’, but back in the day, lots of people learned to ride by riding the less-nice horses at less-nice barns. Lots of people in this sport still require some willingness to pay your dues. Do not give the impression that you are looking down your nose at what a riding instructor with school horses is offering; it is likely that she thinks you utterly lack the standing to do this.
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That said, you do want to find the best, most correct instruction you can. You don’t need fabulous horses to learn that on.
I’d suggest go watching the warm-up ring at some local shows-- both rated and unrated-- and see whose instructions and whose students’ riding or horsemanship you like. Look for kind and workman-like, not necessarily a row of tri-colors at their barn or trailer.
When you go see the barn, see how the clients seem to feel about things. Are they social and happy? Are these people you could see yourself hanging out with. It can be hard to be the new person coming to check out a barn where people have established relationships, but give it a shot and get the vibe of the place.
- When you do let the trainer know what your goals are, demonstrate some willingness to take her input. Yes, you supply the information about constraints with time or money, but let her know that you are willing to start with lessons or some kind of lease depending on what she thinks you need in order to advance in her program.)
Good luck!