Both of mine are Secret Santa / White Elephant type gifts…and the reason I don’t participate in those kind of gift exchanges anymore, LOL. If there is one thing I’m good at, I am a great gift giver. Probably because I do so much online shopping, I’m always seeing things I think certain friends or family will like. And during the holidays, I pay extra attention if people are needing or wanting something. I also try to bring my A-game to gift exchanges, whether it’s a name draw, or ‘bring a gift anyone might like’ situation.
The first one goes back to high school. I was in an extracurricular women’s choir of about 24 women. We did some kind of white elephant exchange, and we were encouraged to have fun with it, but it was by no means one of those gag gift versions. We had a suggested dollar amount (I’m guessing $10-15) to spend. I don’t remember what I brought, but it was certainly nicer than what I ended up with. Three of the girls in this group had some kind of inside joke about a Benjamin Franklin paperback book that was swiped from some teacher’s classroom in the years prior. I don’t remember which version of white elephant we played, but whatever the rules were, I ended up having to pick last, and was not allowed to trade with anyone. I ended up with the used Ben Franklin paperback, while the girls involved in the joke got a kick out of the fact that it was in the gift exchange. I was not thrilled. Everyone else got stuffed unicorns, hot chocolate kits, bath and body products…and I got a used book from a joke I was not a part of. I don’t even think I took it with me, I left it in the choir room, or gave it back to one of the jokesters. Either way, I left with nothing.
The second one was a work secret santa where we drew each other’s names. Gifts were to be around $10. The person I drew had just told us a story about how he was scolded at 7-11 for taking too many splenda packets for his coffee (he said he was taking them to use at home, lol). So I got him the biggest box of splenda packets I could find for $10. The person who drew my name forgot all about it, so he brought me a HOT DOG from a street vendor around the corner 5 minutes before we all exchanged. Yup, once again, everyone was getting cute, thoughtful little gifts, and I ended up with a hot dog that cost $2.50. Not even a soda or bag of chips to go with, LMAO!
Thus, the reasons I don’t play in those things anymore. I may reconsider if we do one at our barn holiday party, we’re a small, tight-knit group, and I think all of us will at least play fair.