My MIL is forever buying me purses or Christmas. She always asks me what I would like (tack shop gift card, anything horsey, give her a couple non horse option ideas as well). She then ends up giving me a purse… This year she asked outright “Do you like the purses I get you?” I politely tell her yeah they are lovely, but I now have PLENTY of purses (10…from 10 years being married to her son lol), and I only use 1 lol. So, hopefully, she will get me something, anything, other than a purse this holiday.
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If they’re expensive handbags, consignment shop or ebay.
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A friend resells expensive items, such as designer purses, on PoshMark, and there was another one she uses that I can’t remember off hand.
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About 100 years ago I was gifted a very expensive Hermes scarf. I was early 20s at the time and bought practically all my clothes at Good will and Caldor or Bradlee’s (yes, yes, I’m telling my age).
I suppose the client took pity on me. But I was so clueless as to what the scarf was and why she’d give it to me… it sat in the bottom of my dresser drawer through 4 moves. I loved the colors and of course the bits, but I simply had no idea why she’d think I’d know what to do with this fancy, silk scarf. A random google search for something else led me to realize what it was. It’s still in the bottom of a drawer, but now I keep it on purpose, not because of guilt 
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In the weird Christmas gift realm - I worked with a woman that as a kid her and her brother always were told to buy their mother wooden spoons for Christmas and Mother’s Day. Their mother broke a lot of wooden spoons so she needed them replaced a lot. Apparently she broke them on her children’s butts because that is what she used to spank them. :eek:Nothing like the kids having to pick out and buy their parent their punishment devices. This was over 30 years ago so not recent. But still.
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I agree with this post. It’s why I haven’t spoken about gifts that I thought were crappy. The thought was there. But that mohair thong?
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LSMarnell-Not the worst I’ve seen, believe me.
My mother’s philosophy of gift giving is you should give the person something you would give yourself. I don’t know where that idea came from, but it didn’t work at all.
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Yeah, I think a lot of people have that idea. It will work if you and your “giftee” have the same tastes and personality, otherwise…nope.
Oh, I know. It’s just funny because I have a lot of really nice artwork in my home. Original Sam Savitt and C.W. Anderson sketches, Mary Haggerd, etc. So, this thing just does not fit in AT ALL. I do 100% appreciate the spirit it was given in though!.
See, I don’t believe that absolutely everyone wants to give a gift that will be appreciated. Of course most people do. But there are certainly people out there who use what is basically the socially mandated giving of presents as a way to be passive-aggressive or even outright send a message that they don’t like the recipient. Sadly, not all families or social groups are made up of only healthy relationships.
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You see, I could have used that and would have been pleased to receive it!
My husband gave me a butter dish one year. Well, as it happened, it matched the rest of our crockery, and wasn’t available in this country, so he had to go buy it on a business trip to Germany, so there was thought and effort involved (this was pre-Amazon.) While he was in the kitchen shop he saw the perfect spatula, so that was included also. Other people present thought these were very odd gifts for a relatively newly-wed couple! We still use both of them pretty much daily, 30 years or so later, so I’d call them a success!
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@Lennox217 and @Jenerationx I join your club of seeming to always get crappy, crappy presents in the group type exchanges, be they gag gift/jokey exchanges or serious ones.
Happily, I’ve gotten MANY, many wonderful, thoughtful, very precious to me gifts over the years, but I’ve got some bad karma going with any sort of Secret Santa or draw-a-name type of exchanges.
A few examples – 4th grade homeroom class – 4th grade, mind you – so we’re all like what, 9 or 10? I got one of those tiny cheap mirror and toy brush and comb sets, not full size, like I had possibly played with as a kindergartner – seriously cheap stuff from the checkout aisle at the store, and made for far, far younger children than 4th graders. Plus I was a tomboy anyway. Blech. I can still name who contributed that gift. Meanwhile, Chris Martin seemed visibly pleased with the Big Little Books and nice marker set that had been my contribution! lol
Online forum Secret Santa for parrot owners – by far the fun of being a participant is the Secret Santa guessing thread. The one year I tried it, I was a very active and enthusiastic participant from day one – make a few incorrect guesses, keep waiting and waiting, hang in there with contributing to the thread – finally at the end my Secret Santa was one of I think 2 in a large group who did not post a single hint or participate at all in the guessing thread. I really felt the organizers could have dropped a friendly hint that my SS was not “playing.” It was no fun at all to have been so active and guessing with good humor and such only to end up with a SS who didn’t even participate – I hadn’t even realized it was “allowed” to be a SS without playing in the guessing thread. Why even do it? Weird.
The crappy stuff I got over several years from my husband’s family exchange in which each adult drew a name for one other adult in the family – I know those were hostile messages! Good for laughs, anyway.
Yeah, I’m a permanent “no, thanks” on the secret Santa thing anymore. I’ll take the $20 I would have spent and go buy myself something I actually want.
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Spam reported post #1143.
Really, spam on Christmas Day?
Not smart to annoy possible customers like that.
Careful with spammer’s links, may carry malware.
Click at your own risk.
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Oh, sorry.
It does look like spam.
No worry, the Moderator will sort that out.
I reported it too. The spam bots are just getting better at interacting. Who’s like “this is the worst gift I ever got. Go buy one for yourself, it’s great!” :rolleyes:
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Yeah plus the name and picture and first post.
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They are rampant today! Merry Christmas everyone!
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You can send it to me, I think it’s cute! Not at all my style, but a sweet thought.
I remember this thread and the coat story every year.
I also don’t hate that painting. I think it shows some real talent! I like it.
The problem with art is that it’s so subjective. Hard to give art you know someone else will love unless you are really confident in knowing the recipient’s taste.
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