Another this she will do is get spooked from a deer jumping out of the tall grass in an unused pasture of mine and she will bolt and plow right through you with absolutely no respect of your space and will not listen to you when you use the whip or a flag
Where are you located?
Plymouth IN. I had a boarder show me some bad trainers and told me who good trainers were but they were all super far away or too expensive
You are in way over your head. Please get some outside help from a professional before you are seriously injured.
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Yes ik Iām trying to find one
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Again, you are seriously in over your head and you are likely to get yourself or someone else hurt by this horse. I donāt know what your idea of a ābad trainerā is, but you are not a āgood trainerā for this horse and she is obviously not going to respond to R+ alone.
Hopefully you can find another horse that is within your skill level to handle, this one isnāt.
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I know Iām not a good trainer am trying to find someone who would be a better fit for the pony. I was stupid to listen to my mom about the mustang and go with her to get one she talked me into it and I didnāt realize that they are feral and need a lot more serious training than a regular domesticated horse. My mom thought I would be a good fit and a good trainer for this pony and now Iām realizing that I shouldnāt have listened to her from everyoneās advice. I talked to her and she wonāt let me āgive upā but ik Iām not good for this horse and Iām going to get hurt then the BLM will mark her as too dangerous and send her to a kill pen. I donāt have the title for her yet so I canāt even give her to someone more capable. And I canāt send her back to the BLM because my mom is the person who technically owns her rn and she wonāt let me. Iām only 14 and I really have no say in what my mom does. My mom is wanting to train her but ik my mom wonāt do it. She got the mustang said she would train it then never did anything with her. My mom told me I should do it which was clearly not smart of her. I got overly confident bc of what she told me. Iām trying what I can to find anyone who will take her when I get the title or I will send her back to the blm before she gets too dangerous. I donāt know how Iāll be able to give her away bc my mom but Iāll figure something out.
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Also I canāt afford any trainer around me my mom wont help out with the fees me and my bf already buy hay and pay for the vet and farrier and stuff. We just canāt afford it
Many of us us have learned from being āoverhorsedā (having a horse that is beyond our capability to ride or train) in the past. Donāt feel bad. Just realize that you have more horse than you can handle right now and donāt give in to pressure from anyone to try to train it.
The behavior you describe is seriously dangerous and at 14 you should not risk your life and health trying to deal with an aggressive horse. You canāt āloveā a horse out of aggression. Stay safe. 
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My advice would be to give the horse away to someone that will take it , save the money you are spending on farrier etcā¦ and get a more suitable horse when you have saved up enough money.
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Ugh Iām sorry. I didnāt want to ask but the more information we got I wondered if you might be younger. You are very articulate and have done a great job of both capturing what you are experiencing and what youāve tried.
It sounds like you are in a home with horse experience but arenāt getting the support you need. The idea of having your teen bring along a young horse is an amazing idea to dream about and sometimes works out. However, in this case it sounds like no one is set up to win.
If sheās still super new to you and BLM I can appreciate the concern about where she will end up. Do you have the type of relationship with your mom where you can say, Iām not giving up but Iām overwhelmed, afraid of getting hurt, and I need help? Does the mare respect her space and boundaries? If so, you may be able to negotiate a rule where you only interact with the mare when your mom is right there and can help you with timing and boundaries. If your mom also has the same challenges maybe it will help her see this isnāt a matter of needing to push through but that she needs more than what your house can provide right now.
When youāre a minor it can be really difficult to navigate family dynamics and horse needs, especially when financial decisions are often a joint responsibility. In the coming days give her space, drop feed over the fence, keep yourself safe, and think about how to navigate the family dynamics. Ultimately, most parents top priority is the safety of their child so your mom may just need some help understanding how unsafe things are and could continue to be unless something changes.
Do you have a riding helmet? If you need to go in her field for any reason please wear it, even if you feel a little silly. Keeping yourself safe is most important and this mare doesnāt have a sense of where her space ends and yours begins.
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Your mom is really the responsible one here, and you should not have to deal with this. It is s not fair for her to put you in over your head like this. It might be worth it to see if there is a TIP trainer in your area. They have experience with mustangs. The Mustang Heritage Foundation would have info. Itās up to your mom to get this horse trained if she wants to get title to it (she does not own the horse ATM, the government does for at least one year after adoption).
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Yeah Iāve had horses my entire life and started riding at 4 but my mom and the other people who used to board on the property never taught me basic groundwork so I donāt know what Iām doing. Me and my momās relationship is 50/50 it depends on her mood. She will listen but she wonāt do anything about it she will just let the horse sit in the pasture her whole life when she has potential to be something like a barrel pony or a show jumper. my mom only taught the pony to lead so I really donāt know much all about how respectful the pony is to my momās space. My mom works at a hospital and is gone 24/7 and when sheās home she is sleeping so I canāt have her help me. I have another horse in the pasture with her and he is really difficult to catch to put in the pasture next to hers so I donāt know how I can get him out safely without me getting hurt. I cant just leave him alone in there heās a senior and I have to tend to him every day I canāt leave him in the pasture and just check on him. My mom knows how dangerous she is but she doesnāt care. She told me I could handle it myself and she would teach the pony respect and boundaries. I do have a riding helmet and Iāll wear it from now on out there
Iāve tried to get her to act responsible but she wonāt. And my mom wonāt spend even a penny on this pony she doesnāt provide for them at all. Iām stuck doing it because sheās immature and very irresponsible. If TIP training costs money I donāt think Iām able to do it. I put the horses health over everything else. If I send her to TIP training I have no money for feed and other necessities for my other horse.
You seem to be getting good advice. I agree with the above.
Since you are essentially working alone, desperate times call for desperate measures. I know someone who had a horse that started chasing/attacking the new pony put into their field. They got a dog shock collar, put it on the horse and used it whenever the horse started to chase the pony. Took three corrections. Horse never chased that pony ever again.
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Shock collars should never have been sold to the general public.
They only belong in the hands of those trained in the concepts to use those.
One dog owner tried to teach their dog not to bark with one and ended up teaching the dog to be afraid of the water bowl, bad timing did that.
I would not advise anyone without direct help to use one for anything, on anyone.
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@Sillygoober I donāt know how old you are, but you sound quite young. So my guess is that even though you have had horses your āentire life,ā you are too young and inexperienced to handle this problem. Find a way to get help.
My second thought is that your mother should be ashamed of herself for allowing you to be in a very dangerous situation day after day and not help you. SMH.
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OP wrote she is 14 years old
personally I am appalled that a teenager is having to raise their mother
I can add nothing to help her, I am just shocked a parent would expose a young teenager to such an environment.
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Again:
Weāre only hearing 1 side of this story.
Iām willing to give Mom a pass until she chimes in.
A 14yoās take might be skewed and missing info.
Hoping OP listens to those telling her to stop trying to fix this pony until she can get some knowledgeable help.
I am listening. I cant afford training as I need to pay for all the horses basic needs so Iām trying to figure out how to give her away to someone more knowledgeable than me
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