I think the OP has left the building.
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Back under the bridge? 
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Yeah Iām sorry Iāve been busy with figuring out how to get the horse taken from the blm. My mom said if I get rid of the mustang sheās going to a horse auction and getting another horse. Iāve had help from my grandma trying her best to tell my mom no, my aunt, my uncle, my momās ex husband. They all tried to help me and she will not listen to nothing. I told her the horse will end up suffering because I donāt have enough money for a vet. All I have is money for food farrier and basic care things like hoof oils and stuff. I also told her most auction horses are drugged, lame, sick, unbroke, dangerous. She told me every auction horse she got was good and that she doesnāt wanna hear anything from me because Iām not as experienced as her and I donāt know what Iām talking about. She wonāt allow me to go without a horse bc she told me she wants me to be an amazing show jumper and dressage rider. She doesnāt understand that Iām not going to be that with horses that donāt get the care and training that they need and I wonāt be that unless I get a professional trainer and have a horse thatās well trained in those disciplines. She thinks I can be that by self teaching myself and training a horse that Is far too dangerous for me and out of my skill set
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oh ugh. you are going thru it.
glad you are back.
And if she wants you to be an amazing showjumper, etc then she needs to be a lot more supportive. And no supportive does not mean kicking you in the ass and refusing to listen to your concerns. She canāt live her life thru you and if thatās what she wants to do then she can be more involved. Again, she sounds like a piece of work. The sooner you get away from her the better.
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look into emancipated minor. I think you have to have a job, be a certain age and some other things Iām not sure about but do the research for your state.
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Okay I will
It says for Indiana I need to be at least 18. I also can only get emancipated if Iām married, can get a job and live on my own, or I have no other family members that can take me in. And the youngest I can live on my own is 17 now if proven responsible enough because I guess Indiana has been changing a lot of laws.
actually it is If you are no longer living with with either parent
just wondering who is claiming you as a dependent on Federal Tax returns, from what you have written it should be your grandparents
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Pushing emancipation on a 14 year old makes zero sense. How is she supposed to legally find a job, housing, transportation etc? Right now sheās got a roof over her head and is getting fed. Itās better to leverage the resources for a planned exit than to try and blow things up without a support network in place.
OP youāre doing the best that you can. Keep your head down at home, work your tail off at school, and invest your energy into thinking about your exit plan when you hit 17/18. Your school may have some dual enrollment or other types of programs where you can finish high school with a license. Being able to get your high school diploma and also your CNA license or cosmetology license can open doors for getting a job. Youāre stuck until you can have a steady income so make that your top priority. Additionally, As someone who spent years working with young moms, be really mindful of how an unplanned pregnancy can further make this difficult situation chaotic. A lot of talented young women get stuck in small towns and cruddy situations because they get pregnant in high school. If heās the best boyfriend ever he wants to see you thrive and be independent and if he isnāt a great guy, you definitely donāt want to be tied to him forever with a kiddo.
Take care of yourself, focus on school, figure out your exit plan.
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Iām about to say something that I would obviously generally not say.
STOP FEEDING THE HORSES.
That is NOT your job to do. You are 14. You need to be saving for college, or for a trade school, or for a first/last/security on your own apartment, or for your first car, orā¦ anything other than blowing all your money on hay and Tractor Supply garbage.
She has thrust this upon you. Thrust it back. Stop feeding them, stop putting out water, and in 2 days call animal control. And the next day, call again. Call the BLM and tell them their horse is being starved.
Stop enabling your mother.
I know this will be ridiculously hard, but this may be your only way out of this. Your mother sounds horrible - donāt allow her to dictate this.
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@Sillygoober - I would support this ^^^. As much as it hurts to see a horse without food or water, the horses are not yours. Taking care of yourself should be your #1 priority. The horses legally belong to your mother. It is her responsibility to take care of them.
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Itās my mom who gets the money thatās the only reason she keeps me as her kid she admitted to that a while ago when my grandma tried to get custody of me
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It doesnāt matter who has custody, it matters who is paying the majority of the expenses.
Thatās not something you need to worry about at your age. You have no control over it, either.
Work on what you can control. You can shut off the flow of money towards the horses.
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If cps removed you from your momās (house?) how does she have custody?
Something doesnāt make sense here.
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Youāve got a phone, record every interaction with her.
I feel horrible asking a 14 year old to stand up like this, donāt think Iām saying any of this flippantly. But you have to be strong, stronger than youāve ever been, to break this cycle.
Your mother deserves to be in jail. Let her.
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Itās not an option for her to be bailed out for violent crime.
If nothing else, CPS and the cops wonāt be able to deny whatās going on, which may result in a better living situation for you.
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Honey, you should not be posting pictures of yourself on an anonymous Internet forum as a minor in general. But especially in contentious threads like this where you are already revealing a lot of personally identifying information that could be used to identify you by someone with malicious intent.
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Please remove all personal information and pictures. You need to keep a low profile and document everything.
Once everything is documented, please share with your case worker and police.
Donāt confront your mom, just walk away, I hate giving this advice, but you need to be selfish and think about yourself. Please find an adult that you can talk with and plan away to keep yourself safe and ready to move out when able to legally. Focus on school and nothing else.
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Okay I think I got rid of everything thatās super personal
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