Observations from an outsider
This is my first COTH post. I have read with increasing amazement this entire 34 page thread. (Damn the friend who sent me the link on Friday.) It was so long ago that I originally registered for the COTH forums, I forgot both my user name and password. I had to re-register. Any of you remember the FIRST RULE you agreed to when you registered?
Rule #1: Be nice, be respectful, be polite.
I guess the rules really don’t matter, huh?
(No, Erin - I’m not trying to take your place as moderator, just making an observation.)
I am not defending VSH policies, but if her wacky business model works for her, then fine. If others don’t like it, then go buy a horse somewhere else. It is her right to do business the way she chooses. Just as it is the right of the people on this forum to discuss what she publicly posted on her website. There’s not much left to say about the policies, so I won’t comment on them any further except to say that she might need professional help to get her message across in a friendlier manner.
As an “outsider” reading this thread, I’ve come away with stronger opinions about this group than of VSH. I am stunned at the degree of invective that has been expressed toward VSH and toward the few people who have tried to restore a little sanity to the subject. (J. Swan and X, to name 2.)
I do not like to stereotype or generalize, but I think that 679 posts have provided way more information than necessary to do so.
I’m not going to quote specific comments from all the posts I have read. But I will stick my neck out and make some observations.
- This is not a friendly group. Open hostility does not encourage me to make new friends here.
- The whole thread has turned into an attack fueled by “mob mentality”.
- If you have all been “nice, respectful and polite”, I would sure hate to see what you have to say when not constrained by this rule.
- I was not aware that selling PMU babies was such a heinous act.
- I was not aware that Draft crosses were so reviled as brumbies, trashy, grade horses. Guess I will have to tell my - very sweet and handsome - TBxPerch that he must lower his opinion of himself. (And, no, he did not come from Canada or VA, nor have I tried to pass him off as anything other than a “hillbilly warmblood” bred in the NC mountains.)
I foxhunt. Although I do not have first hand experience with VSH, I actually had the site bookmarked in my “horses for sale” folder. VSH has a fairly good reputation as a source for foxhunt prospects. (Can’t comment on their reputation as a source for Grand Prix horses as I don’t run in those rarefied circles. For those of you who don’t recognize it - that was a bit of sarcasm.) I’ll admit that I had never even looked at the Policies page because I haven’t seen any horses on the site that I wished to pursue. If I had found something I wanted, and gone on to the policies page, I would have backed away quickly. But it would not occur to me to find a public forum on which I could begin a smear campaign. (And although this is my first - and probably last - COTH post, I am very vocal on other equine related lists and do not shy away from controversy. And, yes, I recognize some of you from other cyber-worlds.)
I kept trying to put a finger on what was so disturbing to me about this whole thread. Others had mentioned “mean-spirited”, slanderous, etc…
But I finally figured out what was getting to me - that people were ENJOYING the bashing of this business. A number of posters are having FUN with this. They may try to justify their complaints as protecting green, unsuspecting buyers, but the bottom line is that you’re having fun trashing this woman and her business. The word “GLEEFUL” comes to mind. As does BULLIES. And both are sickening.
The VSH website policies made me queasy. This thread has made me puke.
Fire suit on, ready for the flames. Bring it on.