2 years ago I got the talk from my kids trainer it was time to get a horse of our own (and this trainer is generally not one to push horse ownership). My kid is not hunter/jumper so things are different but we didn’t really find any leases that would work for us. So even though I never thought we’d buy a horse we bought one.
And… it’s been great. Sure there are ups and downs but overall, in the past 2 years my kid has been able to do every horsey thing she ever dreamed of doing.
This kid wants a horse of her own. Sometimes that is more important than A rated shows. If the family can afford it… a lot can be accomplished in 2 years.
We half lease our horse to help with costs and in a couple years when my kid goes to college she either will take the horse with her or I will ride the horse and/or we will continue to half lease out.
Lots of things can go wrong, but plenty can also go right. Horse are always a terrible financial decision but if you can afford it may be a good choice. We’ve also had multiple friends that have terrible leasing stories. They are out thousands with a lame lease horse and have nothing to ride. One horse had to be sent back early because it was dangerous - they were lucky to be able to get out of the care costs for the rest of the year but they were out the lease fees and still had nothing to ride. Its always a risk. Having said that, I think leases are great - but there are risks just like with ownership.
The parents need to think about what they really want for their kid.