My situation:
I have my own farm and keep my horses here, but I also board my young OTTB. I do all the training, but I do take 1 lesson a week with the barn owner who also teaches lessons there. I also go to shows with her so she can coach me. I have my own trailer.
I would like to take my OTTB to clinics and other shows on my own, that my coach isn’t planning on attending. Just to get him out several times a month and give us both experience. I know I can of course do this, I’m an adult, it’s my horse. HOWEVER, we all know that people can get their feelings hurt and that some trainers can get insecure and upset when their clients do things like that.
My questions:
Is it good etiquiette to let her know that I’m planning on going to X show this month or XYZ clinic? In the Fall when I have mentioned wanting to go to different events, I could tell she wasn’t pleased and gave me reasons why I shouldn’t go. So I didn’t go, not wanting to cause issues.
Or do I just leave a note saying I took my horse for the day with no explanation of where or what?
I know I don’t need her permission, but it’s also a small horse community and I’m sure she would find out and that doesn’t feel right either.
This seems so silly typing this out and my husband doesn’t get why it’s a big deal to just take your own horse in your own trailer and do what you want with it, but I’m sure everyone on here will understand and hopefully give me some advice on how to navigate this situation.