I have a mare that would cool this fillys jets in less than 30 seconds. She is the Borg Queen, I tell you. In with my incredibly aggressive gelding. Together they are just mellow yellow, looking at them you would never guess, BUT- he will ATTACK any other horse that comes near him, with no exceptions, and she is the absolute iron fisted ruler. He’s a loving doll with people, she’s a witch. Has been since she was born, but was tremendous under saddle. After 5 years of bronc riding that is…
PITA to have horses like this, unless they are needed. And this is what your filly needs. Does absolutely no good at all to have her separated, she needs a horse instructor to let her know absolutely she’s not top dog. You can’t be there 24/7, and you don’t carry the impact another mare does. She’ll just turn on you, and you are already 1/10 her size.
It’s nice to have horses out in age groups, but another way to have horses is by level of aggression- in older horses this is absolutely necessary. She’s a little young for this, but there are always exceptions.
I use electric fencing, and believe you me- I test it EVERY SINGLE MORNING, NO EXCEPTIONS. Mine powers at 4000V, and every horse eventually respects it, even my “testing” colt who occasionally still goes through it. A fence tester is a cheap easy deal, I leave it on the fence by the charger and test all the perimeter legs.
Find a bitch mare like mine, and solve your problem. She likely won’t get hurt, believe me, but she will learn or bleed. They learn.
Oh- I see you are in the bay area- I’m not that far away, and I have an open paddock. You can contact me if you want to “borrow” her services for your filly.