Ok the ~final~ update:
To my surprise I got the check from Aiken on Saturday (just a little overwhelmed IRL to update). I was originally told it was mailed morning of Mar 8 and it was in fact post marked Mar 9 so it was actually in the mail for a little over 2 weeks!!
Arielle (the owner) reached out to me this morning to rectify the situation and IMO has been extremely generous to try and resolve everything. I have 3 more saddles to sell (ugh) and am even considering having them consign one of them just to try again. I do appreciate how large ATE is which is in fact a huge plus for trying to move these dang saddles.
I’m still a little put off and confused by some of the experience and several different people working there (not sure who) reaching out with different explanations, questions, and attempts to guilt me into changing this post. To clarify Arielle’s offer and when she reached out to me this morning did not even mention this post so I’m updating completely based on my own experience.