I can’t address every aspect of such a nuanced topic without writing a novel, but I feel obligated to at least share my general perspective and experiences as a male AA rider.
I was the definition of function over form as a kid/teen, so I didn’t win much, but I had some natural feel and I was athletic/strong without getting in the horse’s way. The horses always seemed to like me and I’ve always been obsessed with them.
I do think being a boy helped me as a young rider, especially with males I wanted to learn from. As has been stated, males (especially really horse-addicted males) are SO FAR outside the norm that of course we want to help each other… honestly what kind of person wouldn’t? It definitely helped with many women too.
It also did not help with many other women within the horse world; definitely not most, but more than a few. Was that because they either consciously or subconsciously resented me, at least in the short term, for my gender? Based on how vengeful some of these posts come across, I don’t think that’s a stretch.
There has probably been a mix of both effects in judging. Some were probably more lenient, some were probably more critical, most were probably neutral… I have no idea.
It did not help with my classmates, family, friends… people just think it’s weird. That makes it SO HARD as a teenager to justify the expenses to parents that really love you, but really wish they were watching you play varsity football/basketball. They came around as I got older (and started paying my own bills), but that I always felt like I was swimming upstream and still have some baggage from that. I understand this is not an exclusively male problem.
As a male rider, I’ve always felt like the overarching undercurrent was generally a marginal net positive in the equestrian world and a significant net negative in the non-equestrian world.
Please don’t take the click bait and crucify the small group of men in this sport. The vast majority of us really are trying to do better.