I have a 15.2 OTTB mare that for almost a year in a half was a very pleasant to ride and was coming along very well working primarily on basic lateral work and stretching down to accept the bit. Over the winter she was ridden in a smooth d ring snaffle and did great. We moved to the outdoor ring smoothly without much fuss but once we started jumping more seriously (3’-3’3") and training for the competitive season she has become an absolute hot mess. My trainer and I are the only people that have ever ridden her (had a 4 year laydown directly after coming off the track) I’m a strong believer in good flat work but I can’t even flat her without my arms basically falling off. Her main problem is she is a very forward thinking horse, but when I ask her to keep a consistent, relaxed pace she gets very frustrated and flips her head around which has lead to many rears or grab the bit with her teeth and throw her head down which gets me off balance and then she takes off.
Right now she is jumped in a happy mouth single jointed dutch gag (double reins on the first two rings) and a figure 8 noseband with a running martingale. I try my very best to flat her in a copper alloy french link lose ring with a regular cavesson but she yanks my arms out even with my best attempt to ride her back to front and hold her with my seat. I have tried having her go in a Hackamore which was a bad idea, she took off and with no means off stopping her I had to jump off. I have tried all sorts of regular snaffles, gags, and pelhams. She hates chains even though I have tried leather and vetwrap covered ones. Lately I have been very scared to ride her instead of my usual extreme confidence. I don’t enjoy our early morning hacks like I used to and at this point she would be sold if it weren’t for the fact she is an absolutely fabulous jumper that has one lots of jumper derbys and events. Should I just deal with the fact that she always be kooky and try to work with her? I have had multiple conversations and we are both out of ideas and I decided to try COTH for a fresh perspective. Any ideas/critique welcome! Thanks!