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Well you may not like my answer but I would look closely at you as a rider. He is a horse who will likely never have a strong connection with contact but you need to sort out how to ride HIM.
I have a now broodmare who I routinely got 8s and 9s on her gaits and 4s for submissions. (Through Prelim too). The tests would start with 7s and 8s and end with 4s. But if I only knew then what I know now as learned from her and a few horses afterwards.
In her case and with my current horse, you can not have ANY tension in your arm. The feel you take of the contact is SUPER light and I’m always working on long and low. It is a really particular sort of ride and very hard to do and do well.
To me…you work on it. And figure out what works for the both of you. And learning that with this horse will help you ride others. And you pick events with TOUGH xc so you hopefully move up after dressage … And yes, my mare was a very good jumper (although NOT easy to ride…very much a pro ride) and more than once was DFL after dressage and finished with a primary color ribbon.[/QUOTE]
This is all so very accurate.
Look to you. Find an instructor who will concentrate on you and how you effect the horse. Some horses will tolerate the “do it now” rider, others , it’s all in the asking.