I know what the attorney said. What I was describing was the legal standard. It actually doesn’t really matter whether the accused thought it was reasonable, which is exactly what he was saying. In the context of a diminished capacity defense, the capacity of the person accused to determine right from wrong is in question (in a M’Naughten state, which NJ is.) For self defense, the burden of proof is on the defendant to introduce evidence that they acted as any average reasonable person would when presented the same circumstances. It is then on the prosecution to counter that claim and disprove.
By “Law and Order” I meant that people seem only familiar with the black and white as it is presented on legal dramas such as Law and Order. What fits into a 48-minute tv series is not nearly the same as the various nuances of law in actual practice.
There are in fact several defenses that relate to self-defense. The standards are different, for example, if the accused was in his own home at the time, depending on the state. There are multiple findings of fact to self defense beyond simply whether the defendants use of force was reasonable, such as the duty to retreat.
I really should stop reading these threads.