Lady Wades are lighter than regular Wades, but they can be dang heavy, IME. Wades are also dang expensive, at least where I’m at. I really wanted a Wade, but where I am I couldn’t find a good one in fair condition for under $1000, the ones in good condition were usually close to $3000. They keep their value well, but it means they dont’ come cheap.
I have a gaited horse pleasure saddle that I do everything in, but I can’t rope in it. Its really well balanced, super comfortable, and puts me in a really good position. Plus, with some extra padding to fill in the hollows behind his withers, it fits my very high withered TBx.
I’ve ridden in some roping saddles I love and some I hated. I really like ranch ropers, but they do tend to be heavier. There’s a lot of different types of ropers, so you may find while you like one roper, you hate another.
I’m not a fan of the barrel saddles I’ve ridden in. Cutting saddles are nice, but I find them a little slippery. Pleasure saddles tend to be a little more comfortable, and the ones I’ve sat in seemed to have the stirrups place a little farther back. I’ve never ridden in a reining saddle, so I can’t comment on those. Ones that are cut away underneath the fenders are nice if you want a closer contact, but I’ve never had a problem getting a close contact in mine.
I’m 5’5", 175lbs and I ride in a 15" or 15.5". 16" feels too big to me.
The best thing you can do is sit in a bunch to find what you like. I’m no expert by any means, so these are just what I’ve noticed as I was trying saddles and riding in friends saddles.