Now, if you get pregnant I think all will be fine.
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Bingo!
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I boarded my first horse, an Anglo-Arab at a top local hunt seat stable (the owner had been the MFH of the local hunt club.)
EVERY other horse had its mane pulled to around 3".
My beautiful horse’s mane was 12" to 18" long. NOBODY, fellow boarders, the barn owner, or lesson students, ever messed with my horse’s mane, ever, ever, ever. He was the ONLY horse at that stable with a long mane.
I did not have to say anything to prevent them messing with my horse’s gorgeous long mane, nothing at all. It was accepted as my personal foible. When I did my one show I VOLUNTARILY cut off over 6" then pulled to 6", and after that show I let his mane grow out again. NOBODY at this very conservative stable did anything to my precious horse to change his looks.
I returned the favor. The other horses were not mine, and if I had messed with the other horse’s appearance (a show stable) I would probably been told to leave the stable.
But it never occurred to me to change a horse that was not mine, even if I had gotten to ride that horse. It was something that just was not done in polite society back then. I could do what I wanted to with my horse’s mane, and everybody else did their own thing, and nobody ever did anything with another person’s horse without permission unless it was a true emergency.
If I had gone out to the stable and found out that someone had decided to chop off my horse’s mane, I would have simply exploded. Of course there was no danger that anybody at that stable would interfere with how my horse looked because something like that JUST WAS NOT DONE in polite society.
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It ain’t bingo 'til ya get a flounce.
Anyone else feel like we’ve met Yankee D’s long-lost twin?
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Can’t help how others interpret even though I did make my position clear on numerous occasions repetitively stating the same thing that I started with. Then all the dogs come out and try to gang up attacking me personally. Man, really takes cyber bullying to a whole new level.
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You didn’t communicate that very well, especially the part where you keep claiming everyone was to blame and the OP should have predicted some idiot might decide to butcher her horse’s mane 
Glad you now agree the only person to blame is Susie, and that you have wasted hours of time arguing the opposite.
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No freaking kidding. I still think there’s a certain…nuance…to this poster’s approach to debate that is very familiar.
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No, ‘Susie’ (because I’m pretty sure you’re the trespassing boarder here).
No communication was necessary, because there is an expectation that no one else should be pulling your horse’s mane, borrowing your tack, etc. Do you understand the concept of boundaries? I live next door to people who don’t. I came home one day to find that they had come into my yard, in my absence, to cut down a 30-year old rose bush. They said they were ‘just trying to be helpful.’ The sheriff set them straight pretty quickly.
But the point is, they had no right to be in my yard; ergo, no communication on this topic should have been necessary. Same thing with the OP and her horse and ‘Susie.’ Susie had no right to go into that stall, halter that horse, and pull its mane. What’s mine is mine. What’s yours is yours. I have no more right to paint your car than you do to cut down my rose bushes.
I know I’ve wasted the last two minutes of my life typing this because you cannot understand the errors of your ways, but oh well.
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I don’t know where you’re trying to connect me to her bc that’s blatantly wrong.
I’ve had property issues myself where I’ve had to explicitly tell my neighbor to stop driving his gator through the back of my property bc my other neighbor was suspicious that he was spying on her. This neighbor usually came in the back way with the previous owners of the house so we had to tell him that was cool with the old owners, but he can’t do that with us.
You’d think it would be common sense that him coming on the property from that direction would have stopped with the previous owner, but no. Did he ask our permission to do this? No. We had to explicitly tell him to stop.
Case and point, it was both of our faults. Since then, we’ve not had any problems.
Then you should understand EXACTLY where the OP is coming from.
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Yeah, that’s why I’m pointing out it was a miscommunication issue. Why am I constantly having to repeat myself? I haven’t misunderstood the situation except for the one part that she walked in there when a kid was using her horse in a lesson. I mistook that for that at the current barn, but that’s the only time. Everything else is just a symptom of the miscommunication.
Everyone on this thread please stop harassing me, telling me that I’m wrong and making me having to explain myself. I will continue to stand by my point no matter what else is said so stop wasting your time.
So you are agreeing that ‘Susie’ was the one at fault here, it was her responsibility to communicate with the owner?
As for wasting time, heck it’s my time, I get to do with as I wish.
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Yawn …. @gone_rabian.
Seriously ya’ll aren’t tired of trying to reason and explain to someone so entrenched that they’re blind ? Seriously. Anyone who thinks the offended horse owner has any bit of responsibility for this idiot woman’s boundary issues is just incapable of admitting they’re wrong. Susie is a dodo. Barn owner is a spineless enabler and horse owner is a victim.
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Have a nice day. We’re done. I’m not repeating myself anymore. You can take yourself back through the thread and re-read everything that’s been written if you’re that bored.
I do believe the thought is - clearly this person does not understand - and then the desire to help them understand.
I am still waiting for @gone_rabian to post a photo of whatever sign they use so everyone knows the rules that apply to their horse(s).
(And I admit that I really want to get some scissors and figure out where those horses might be to make sure the signs are clear.) <— Edit to add that this is sarcasm, no horses not owned by me are in danger of me randomly trimming anything on them.
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Bingo!!
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Understood! But when scores of reasoned responses are completely disregarded and the original position is just doubled down on… you have to just roll your eyes and walk the hell away 
seriously look at her posts. When have you EVER seen zero support for a poster. Even nutty or controversial views will often get a bit of support. Hers? CRICKETS.
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But that wasn’t your fault. Nor should you have HAD to tell that person that. You admit that it should have been common sense. That makes it not your fault.
That is all people are trying to say.
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Oooh, is this a COTH first? Lines up wine and popcorn for later, glares at avocado to try and get it to ripen.
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No, it is my fault because I did not set clear boundaries. We didn’t initially see it as a problem until after the fact. So now problem is fixed. End of story
