I have a 5 y.o. gelding who is overall a well behaved citizen. He has some young horse tendencies and some goofy gelding behavior, but overall he is a safe horse to handle. He does not like baths, and therefore resists walking into the wash stall when I want to hose him off. He will plant his feet and be very resistant to walking into the wash stall when I (or anyone else) tries to lead him in. I’ve found that he’s happy enough to follow me into the wash stall if he sees a treat in my hand. I’ll show him the treat, he’ll follow me in, I’ll put him on the cross ties, and then I’ll give him the treat. To me, this seems like a perfectly fair compromise to get him to do something he clearly dislikes. Other people at my barn have called me out as ‘babying’ him, saying he needs to learn to walk in without a treat. They think I should be walking in with a lunge whip or dressage whip and tap him on the butt when he plants his feet.
I understand that there are different schools or horsemanship, and one problem has many different solutions. Am I really breeding an issue with ‘bribery’ vs. using the stick? I want to have a respectful horse, but also want to have a relationship where he enjoys doing things with/for me, not a relationship based on fear. Thoughts?