Update time again.
My fence is back up fully and working. I left it switched on this time so if she decides to come back she’ll get a surprise. 
SO says that while she did chat a little to the boys, most of the time she used it as a way to slip a rude remark or insult in.
He also said that by the time the fence was finished, she seemed to be getting on a lot better with them.
SO said she asked to use the bathroom again, and he/gran took her to the same one as yesterday. It’s one we don’t use much- the seat is always cold, the room attracts spiders, and it really needs a fresh coat of paint! :o
(does that make me a bad person? :winkgrin:
Still no word on her social worker, or from her mom. Grandad is still ill- not worse, but not better either. 
As far as I can tell, her mom had a one night stand, so daddy could be anywhere but isn’t in the picture. I’m sure I’ve missed something, but I can’t think of it right now. 