Jane - you know I don’t come from a big show barn but we have alot of rules @ my barn like yours - like how the trainer handles shoeing, vetting, etc, does all the show arrangements, etc and when I started boarding there I got a huge boarding contract clarifying what I did and didn’t do, did and didn’t pay for, what was extra, and that kind of stuff. My trainer also went over all of it with me and what she expected from me in terms of how I kept my horse, rode, showed, etc. Did you give the parents something like this so they could see how it breaks down?
Also I KNOW you are fairly cheap for your level - maybe letting her know how much she COULD be paying will make her appreciate what she has more (my trainer has been known to point out when someone bitches at her about a cost that they could go to so-and-sos where they charge twice as much for whatever and people often then realize how well they have it!)
If he’s a working student you should be getting ALOT more! I think to some extent helping out at the barn for little stuff is common curtesy, I would expect alot more of a working student (then again I admit I am not familiar with your program!) and they should come to shows even if they do not ride - I always try to go to my trainer’s shows not just b/c of my work but it is educational to watch her and her clients/friends ride.
If you can’t work things out you probably should let him go or else you’ll just keep losing and your other clients may come to resent him b/c of how easy he gets it!
Sarah