My husband was like this and he had a few low blood results that he needed to supplement and low level anxiety that also needed meds. He used to HAVE to nap daily usually for a few hours. He will still nap but not every day and never for as long. Especially if you’re pregnant it would be worth asking for a full work up. Some common ones are vitamin d, iron, all of the bs such as b6, b12. If you’re east coast Lyme disease as well.
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Good advice for OP. Chronic fatigue can happen on its own, but it’s a very common symptom to SO many other things it would be worth exploring.
I still will nap as well, but it’s mostly a choice now vs before when if I didn’t, I’d chance dozing off anywhere…which I often did 
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I saw in your reply above where you mentioned that you had been advised to keep her in work for her health based on her injury/rehab - in which case, that really does take away the easiest answer of just turning her out and letting her sort herself out for a while 
That said, I do really like the idea of liberty, ground work, and one of my favorites: long lining!!
It can be really hard to stay motivated and positive when life just keeps piling complication after complication on you. If anything, may I make this one suggestion?
Make this insurmountable mountain of “challenges” smaller. Cut off a bite-sized issue and address them one at a time. Maybe things will get easier when they don’t seem so overwhelming. It’s the same thing with having challenging conversations with people - if you let it build up to a critical point, it seems almost impossible to have those tough, honest talks with folks - but if you address things as they come up, the load never gets quite so heavy.
Give yourself some grace. You’re dealing with a lot. Test out some different things, try things on for size, see what works for you - hopefully there is something that does, where you feel like you aren’t having to give up quite so much.
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I believe it was Jane Savoie who talked about “changing your goals.” What we might call “pivoting” today. The gist is: goals are good, but when circumstances arise and your original goals are now impossible (at least, for now), you have the agency to change them. That’s where you are. Maybe you don’t train her for cutting. Maybe you’ll do endurance, or driving. Four is still pretty young. There’s time.
But. Your husband must stop riding your horse. Full stop. He’s training your mare things that might take years to undo. You are her advocate. It’s not his business if she’s in a pasture doing nothing. It’s yours. Don’t equivocate. Don’t fake cry. Just flat-out tell him he’s banned from riding her because your training methods are too different. Maybe you can send her out for 90 days of training, or maybe you can do some ground driving and cavaletti work yourself.
Or, tell him he can ride her, but only with your supervision and only if he follows your regimen. Otherwise, he’s out.
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