My first personal computer was a Commodore 64, given to us by a relative moving on to bigger and better things. As I recall, anything bigger than a slide rule would qualify, but I digress…
Would my commodore be a distant relation to these others mentioned here? Mine couldn’t sing, as cd slots weren’t invented yet, but it never bullied anyone either.
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Sorry if this disappoints you but no we haven’t abandoned either ChantersHelper or Chanter. We’re still all very much involved trying to find a solution to this situation that will be the best possible solution for everyone.
I think its very sad that this didn’t work out I also find it sad that so many people seem to really be enjoying that fact.[/QUOTE]
I’m not enjoying the fact at all. I’m glad someone (you) jumped up and said, no I’m still here to help. Kudos to you for doing so.
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Sorry if this disappoints you but no we haven’t abandoned either ChantersHelper or Chanter. We’re still all very much involved trying to find a solution to this situation that will be the best possible solution for everyone.
I think its very sad that this didn’t work out I also find it sad that so many people seem to really be enjoying that fact.[/QUOTE]
“So many”? I don’t see many enjoying it at all.
Knowing what you know now, do you think the rudeness shown to the doubters in the last thread was really that good an idea? There were a number of things not adding up, you have to admit–don’t you?
Enjoying the fact that it didn’t work out?
I don’t see anyone enjoying it at all…
Steph
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I’m not enjoying the fact at all. I’m glad someone (you) jumped up and said, no I’m still here to help. Kudos to you for doing so.[/QUOTE]
Sorry that wasn’t directed at either you or most of the people on this thread just to those who seems to be more interested in saying “I told you so” than to offer anything constructive. I edited that post to read : “some” instead of “so many”. Just a mistake in my wording.
As for being rude to people who were asking more questions in the original thread; I don’t think I was “rude” to anyone.
I think it is wonderful that people stepped in to help in the first place and all that has been done…I still am having trouble believing this. I honesty thought this was some of kind of joke or hoax by a group of some very clever and creative alters…sadly that is not the case.
I truly hope this works out for everyone and that this can be a happy ending.
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just to those who seems to be more interested in saying “I told you so” than to offer anything constructive. [/QUOTE]
well, I said 'I told you so" and I offered something constructive as well. So there—you have to understand that those of us who have seen these kind of trainwrecks over the past many years were trying to stand up and say “hey, let’s not rush into anything.” Then to be pushed off and told that our attitudes weren’t needed in the big group hug that was happening was just really too much. Not revelling in anything, but I wonder how many people would jump on the Kumbaya bandwagon now that hindsight is 20/20?
Unfortunately I can’t offer much in the way of constructive advice. I don’t know a lot about the laws down there regarding tenancy or livestock boarding. In the long run the kindest option might be to get in contact with a government agency and find her the people who have the right type of pull and experience to aid Chanter in the manner that she needs
. And I’m sure it’s been asked and answered, as to whether or not she has family somewhere that can be a good influence. I shall assume she doesn’t have any, otherwise they’d be in the loop already.
I think what ALOT of people don’t realize is that no one involved rushed into anything without checking out the facts very carefully beforehand. Just because that information was NOT posted on this BB out of respect for Chanter’s privacy does NOT mean that anyone was so foolish as to not do all the homework before moving on anything. There is alot that many people don’t know and quite frankly there was no need for most people to know all the little details who weren’t directly involved.
The current turn of events has every one of us who were/are just stunned and disappointed.
I also think that part of the current problem is that the people involved are ALL under enormous amounts of stress, are exhausted and are trying to deal not only with major moves but with disasterous weather conditions that were totally unexpected and made for many unforseen problems.
You may be surprised. Many family members give up at some point when coping with adult children, brothers, sisters, etc. who have mental health issues &/or disabilities that make them very difficult to deal with, as we’ve seen here. Given her age it’s possible her parents are deceased. I don’t believe that was ever addressed in the original thread. Maybe it was said off the board to those helping behind the scenes.
I wonder how the landlord in FL feels. Let’s just hope the poster that claimed she sent someone after the landlord was a liar. I hope that’s ALL I have to think of another COTHer…
stepping in front of the train…
before it flies off the track.
There is a lot going on behind the scene here folks. Just like there was a lot going on behind the public board a few weeks ago.
Just so that you know, I did not just jump into this blindly. There was some verification of events conducted not only by myself but by the other people involved. Just because certain information was not posted about a person’s personal life on a public board doesn’t mean the checking didn’t happen. There such a thing as respecting a person’s privacy and dignity and those who were actively involved in trying to help Chanter out were privy to that information. I’m sorry if some feel they were entitled to that information to comment on. I disagree.
At this point, the issue is how do we draw this to a conclusion. Chanter is not communicating with me…she walks past me as if I were invisible and after the encounter yesterday, I am very hesitant to approach her. I sincerely hope she is communicating with someone on the board and talking about what she would like to do. If she is talking to someone, I would appreciate them letting me know.
It’s always exciting to watch the trainwrecks, but in this case, there are at least three people’s lives (and a number of animals’) involved and I, for one, would like to preserve some semblence of dignity and respect, not only for myself, but for Chanter as well.
Thank you all! I hope we have some better news to post tomorrow!
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And I’m sure it’s been asked and answered, as to whether or not she has family somewhere that can be a good influence. I shall assume she doesn’t have any, otherwise they’d be in the loop already.[/QUOTE]
No, she has no living family members or relatives. She is very much on her own.
Is the horse better???
When I fed my horses tonight, he seemed fine. I don’t know about his water consumption as Chanter is caring for her two horses, but he is alert and seems like they are both settling in now.
Still here too!
I too would seriously hope that Chantershelper doesn’t feel that I am hanging her out to dry. We have been in contact almost daily from the start and I will help in any way I possibly can. I am not sure what I can do right now though as Chanter has also ceased all communication with me. I have not posted because I haven’t had anything nice to say;) and their personal business is not mine to comment on.
The whole situation stinks and I hope for all involved that the resolution is swift and peaceful. I hope that Chanter finally finds peace in a place that she is happy. In the mean time…bravo helper for taking the high road and leaving the manure out of your posts. I really admire your approach in this difficult position.
well i completely stayed out of the first thread, there’s a reason why some folks have no one in the world to help them but complete strangers, they’ve burnt out everyone who knows them
ch, you’re handling this well, good luck, i hope there’s a resolution soon
I don’t enjoy train wrecks. The situation is making me sick. I urged people to be cautious because I have been in a similar situation of trying to help someone who was beyond my capacity to help. Does it occur to you that those you attacked on the other thread might have been trying to help YOU? Sadly, some of you are still missing the point. It wasn’t about verifying “facts.” It was about understanding why there are agencies and professionals who deal with situations like this, and understanding your own limits. I’m sorry, Moonballad, but the fact that you are “stunned” just shows how unprepared you were to deal with this. Don’t continue to attack, please 
. Maybe we are still trying to help in a different way.
I hope it will work out for everyone. Believe it or not, I was hoping I was wrong and that this story would have a happy ending.
Spoilsport,
I spent a lot of hours talking to Chanter and to other people who were spending hours talking to her. I believed that she was under an extreme amount of stress and had been isolated from the world due to the nature of her job. It was my hope that being on a smaller, modest farm without a number of other employees, clients and people around that it would be a less stressful situation for her. Maybe had the weather not sucked beyond words the first week she was here, things would have been different as it and all the problems it caused certainly made it stressful around here!
I guess we’ll never know. But I at least WANT TO BELIEVE that we both had high hopes and wanted this to work. She feels lied to, misled and mistreated. Unfortunately, due to events after our argument, it would be unwise to us to have her here for many reasons. Please forgive my cryptic-ness. This is such a crappy situation for all involved.
Everyone, I would really appreciate your thoughts today. I really have to try to talk to her today and find out what she wants to do. I need wisdom and the right words. I don’t want this to get ugly. Thanks!
You’ll be in my thoughts, and FWIW, I think how you’ve handled it right here is sufficient. Don’t just be polite, be honest. Tell what you hoped for, what you see, what’s going on with you. You’re important too.
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