All of the above being said already, there are a couple things we are doing in an effort to allow DD one weekend at Gulfport.
1)the horse she is riding is not hers (she doesn’t have one at the moment), and he is being used by a couple other people during the six weeks of competition so we can split expenses drastically.
2)fortunately for us, there is a military base nearby with a Navy Lodge, and the rooms have kitchenettes. We will be cooking 95% of our own food, and the rooms are cheaper for what you get than staying out in town locally.
3)DD saved her Christmas money from her great grandparents and from her aunt and uncle because she knows if she wants a souvenir or two she will have to buy them.
4)We will be making the looooong drive down the day/night before, and leaving as soon as she is done showing on Sunday for the drive back in order to cut down on number of nights needed to pay for hotel.
5)a friend has absolutely generously offered to let us stay the night at her place on the way back should we get too tired to make the full drive home, saving us hotel money.
6)she knows if I get sick we will not be able to go, but that is a fact of life over the last 3 years so she is used to it by now.
7)She makes great friends wherever she goes so she has people far and wide to keep up with as a young woman. She has learned that she can only benefit from having a wide net of friends. That way if she gets down there and realizes she forgot her gloves or spurs or something, she knows that she has plenty of friends to borrow a pair from so we don’t have to buy a replacement. That seems simple, but it is not - so many competitors are not pleasant to each other, but DD likes to make friends with everyone. After all, you are going to see them at shows all over throughout your career if you stay in horses, so make friends early and make an effort to keep them. She’s loaned out everything from gloves to the jacket off her back and her pony to someone else to show (back when we could afford that) and she would do so again in a heartbeat. That kindness comes back in waves. And she is a truly kind girl.
- As counter-intuitive as it may be, we’ve not had her take the same amount of lessons as she was taking before her attack of anaphylaxis. First we are putting the difference in money aside in an account for the show specifically, and second we are taking it slow as far as how much time she spends in the saddle as we make 100% SURE that her sudden attack of anaphylaxis wasn’t caused by horses. The doctors were blunt that next time we wouldn’t have ten minutes to get her to the hospital so we are being probably over cautious. And of course she carries epi pens and benadryl everywhere she goes and will never be able to be in the barn/ride alone.
9)Her trainer will be there for the whole time, but we are only going for one weekend and it will probably be the last weekend. So the money for a few lessons she would have had over that time will also be stored for the trip.
All in all, we have calculated that with staying on base, buying our own food, reducing the number of nights we actually need a hotel, and socking away the money that we would have spent on a weekly lesson, we will come pretty close to being even for the trip. Her grandparents contribute for her lessons and they know we are putting said money aside, so there won’t be any awkward questions from them about going to the show when we get back 
As it will likely be the only big show she gets to do this year, we are trying hard to swing it. She works so hard for other people in her time off, I really hope we can make it work out! Everyone deserves to live a dream for one weekend in their lives, for sure.
Oh, and we won’t be looking for gorgeous Lugano diamond earrings in the VIP tent at WEF, although if anyone wants to send me those incredible looking earrings I will accept them graciously, lol!