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So the mare was extra-cranky in my lesson this morning. The barn girl had arrived a little late, and the turnout rotations had changed, so all the mare got was 1/2 flake of hay and her (not very big) breakfast of less than a pound of ration balancer with her usual morning supps and previcox. She was waiting at the gate making her “OMG I am starving” noises and pacing and pawing when I went to get her. She is, um, extremely dramatic about anything having to do with food. (Many horses are like this, but Morgan mares are almost universally like this 
She was super wiggly on the cross ties and I did give her a few hay scraps by hand. As I said, the lesson didn’t go well. She was tight and cranky and didn’t improve that much even after the trainer rode her for a few minutes. And she was turning herself inside out afterward, very anxious to be turned out, and I should have carried at least one flake with me when I put her out, instead of putting her out and then getting her hay. (Happy horse gets to spend the afternoon eating her usual morning hay AND her lunch hay. And no she doesn’t have ulcers. And free choice hay would turn most of the horses at the barn into blimps, so they do go for some number of hours without hay overnight. Hay rations are extremely generous compared to most barns around here anyway.)
My usual thing, with morning lessons, has been to be sure she has time to eat even if it means getting to the barn early. Up until today I have not needed to go early on Saturdays because she was getting time to eat at least half her morning hay before I got her. It just seems fair to me; I can’t do my best if I am hungry so why should I expect her to? BTW this doesn’t necessarily extend to grain; I do understand why some people wait, but getting some hay into them sounds like the right thing … but some people seem to think it’s “indulgent” or unnecessary.
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I only have the OP’s words to go on to formulate an opinion. “Extra-cranky” “turning herself inside out” “super wiggly”. But OP, if someone says something negative about your horse’s manners, then she is a barn favorite? Not trying to argue, but what are you expecting when you use those specific phrases? Is this the same mare that you described this way in the halter/bridle combo thread “Mare is a little bit herdbound so that’s no surprise, though she’s lost her mind when horses have gone to the other side of really scary water.”
And I’m not trying to give you a hard time, but you seem to be looking for a specific kind of answer. According to what you’ve posted on more than one thread, you have a horse that cooperates when she feels like it. I don’t think it has much to do with whether or not she did or did not have breakfast, I think it has to do with respect. I have my own issues with some of my horses. No one has to agree with me, and I hope you continue to have many wonderful hours with her. I just know what works for me, and it’s not peppermints or a magic blue bucket. It’s many hours of hard work training them to react and behave in a certain way. I have a spooky one that has gone from “wheel buck and run” to simply spooking in place. I may never get any better but at least the horse is safe to ride and no longer panics.