[QUOTE=Fillabeana;9001539]
Ceylon, don’t ever let someone tell you who you are.
Good for you, presenting her with the rule book. But some people won’t change their minds about something…and if that gets you seeing red, you are doing yourself a disservice.
Also good for you, doing what you can that is best for your little bay fireplug.
Get the best help you can, ride to accommodate your shortcomings (I have my own set of problems, much as you do with your leg) and you never have to explain yourself to someone who wants to tell you who you are.[/QUOTE]
Thank you 
It wasn’t the fact that she wouldn’t change her mind that got me so frustrated. It was a combination of things, but mainly just how disrespectfully she said it. “The rulebook is wrong”?? It’s not that she disrespected ME necessarily, but to disrespect the rulebook for the governing body? It’s just so unprofessional, and I find it difficult to want to support something that puts money in her pocket. It’s kind of like how I avoid a western schooling series up the road from me, because the “judge” boasts about how her accreditation (that nobody can actually find documentation of) makes her more knowledgeable than the judges and trainers who have searchable credentials AND extensive experience in their discipline of choice, not to mention other unprofessional behaviour in other areas when she isn’t judging her show series. I’d much rather give my hard earned dollars to a series/club that treats their paying competitors with respect, rather than knocking others down. If that makes any more sense?
I like to think I’m doing the best I can with what I’ve got, even if we look a bit out of place for doing so. Haha. So thank you for your kind comments!
Back to the double, and hunters then vs now - ponybutt is definitely a “back in the day” hunter that one would see out riding to hounds, versus today’s “make it look effortless” show hunter. So we stick out when compared to the warmbloods and flashy bred-for-the-show-ring horses, but you know what, I like that about him!
Regarding running martingales used as a standing - It’s one of my pet peeves. Especially since the people in my area who do so are also the people who attach it to a figure eight noseband instead of a proper cavesson. :eek: But, in a pinch, if it works for the horse, it works. But I would hope it’s only temporary until the person gets a proper standing. Just my two cents on that matter. I also prefer, for my personal use, to go with a running over a standing, because I feel like a running allows the horse to self-correct, whereas a standing lets them get away with leaning/setting their head too easily, which creates another problem entirely that I’d rather not deal with if I don’t need to! haha
RugBug - I also agree that he likely means the myler style snaffles with the slots for cheekpieces and reins, turning said snaffle into a sort of gag/leverage type bit without looking like a non-snaffle. I’ve used one before, but hated the feel I got with it. I have since passed it on to a kid at the barn who is trying to get her horse out of a kimberwick and into something softer, but isn’t ready to jump down to a plain snaffle just yet. It works well for her horse though!