That’s certainly not how I define baggage and I doubt that most people would define it that way.
A person having prior relationships doesn’t equate to having baggage. A person having a prior relationship that left them damaged and unable to fully participate in a healthy way in a new relationship is what creates baggage.
SuzieQNutter described her dh as having no baggage because she was his first girlfriend.
But again as I said - “baggage” comes in many forms - not just romantic relationships. I would say I think it’s fair to look for someone who is emotionally stable. That means a person who can/does deal with their history - no matter what it is (family, relationships, etc.)
I must say @centaursam I like your personality just based on how you are handling this thread. COTH has a habit of being “mean old ladies” sometimes but you are handling the different opinions good or bad with grace! 
Somehow I missed the LA part which is why I now see why you would have so many “modeling” type pictures on your profile. It’s definitely a beast out there for sure.
You can plan out your perfect partner all you wish, but when you actually meet “the person” a lot of that goes by the wayside!
Successful long term relationships are always going to involve some series of compromises and flexibility over the years.
Go audit clinics, perhaps
Good lord I had to back up the bus and start reading over when I read this, not “canoeing” 
Not just on-line.
indeed
Agree! I’m probably old enough to be Centaursm mom, but not married and not looking. LA is the last place I’d go looking for what you’re looking for. I’m from the Midwest, but living in TX and if a relationship was that important to me, I’d move. I’m actually planning to move back to the MW but for other reasons.
LA is a great city to be in if you want to have fun casually. But with regards to the type of woman I want to be in a relationship with, I recognize I might definitely be in the wrong place.
But there are a lot of people here, I don’t think just giving up is the way to go. Seeing as I’m stuck here for the foreseeable future, I’ll just have to get creative with respect to meeting women. Many here have offered some great suggestions so I’ve got a place to start.
When I lived in LA (22 years total in two different stretches), I mostly knew “real” people. This was in spite of working in the entertainment industry for all of my adult years there. Even my friends at work were pretty down to earth. I’m still friends with some of them, all these years later.
My father had also worked in the industry, and I couldn’t stand his friends. They were pretty pretentious, but then, so was he.
Rebecca
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