OP… I’ve muddled my way through to this thread and agree with much of what others brought up about leg to hand. I sympathize with how it can be tough to develop that, even at a low level, if you initially come from a hunter background. I made the journey from hunters and pony club, to low level eventing, to riding with a good dressage coach years ago… and am now a re-rider working on riding WELL, at a barn with both a great dressage and eventing coach. Both coaches CAN teach either discipline, but have their individual passions.
Both emphasize the horse needs to be in front of the leg, balanced, supple and adjustable. For anything. Dressage, jumping, cross country (although I haven’t ridden cross country in ages - other than logs on hacks. But we’re working on getting there).
I have a young horse who we have a balanced training program for with lots of variety (flatwork, jumping, and hacking out) and are taking our time with to develop in a healthy correct way. But that doesn’t mean waiting 6 months to canter. Even though I am a low level re-rider and the horse is green. We are working on engaging her hind end, developing adjustability within the gaits (mainly at the walk and trot right now), lots of transitions, and starting some shoulder fore, and leg yielding. Turn on the haunches. The goal is to get the horse supple, in front of the leg, adjustable and balanced. With canter, we are working more on good upward transitions so she steps into canter and doesn’t start on her forehand strung out. That means she must be properly engaged at the trot and slightly collected with impulsion to get a good canter depart. She’s a nice Warmblood with great gaits and it is not necessarily obvious that she isn’t always engaged, in front of the leg, or on her forehand at the canter - she doesn’t look like a western pleasure horse going around… But a solid foundation of “dressage” - “flatwork” - whatever you want to call it - is what we need at this stage. That means in front of the leg, a soft jaw (we’re not focusing on where she is relative to a frame or the vertical - she just can’t be obviously resistant with her nose out or clenched jaw, nor dropping way behind the vertical) supple and adjustable within gaits, lots of transitions, and trying to maintain a nice elastic consistent connection.
It sounds like you and your horse might be at a similar stage working on similar things. Maybe you’re way beyond that and I’m off. But it sounds as though you’re at a similar point.
Sometimes I think getting all into “dressage talk” makes this more complicated than it is. I try and not think about “levels.” I think about how my horse and I are going and what we need to work on. We could put together a very competitive training level test, and possibly first. The horse hasn’t turned 5 yet. But for now, the focus is to keep on working on bits and pieces and exercises to improve the total picture. My hands are not the best… I attribute that to an ingrained hunter background and not focusing on riding with an independent seat earlier in my education. So sometimes my contact can be too rigid and heavy when I am focusing super hard on maintaining a quiet hand, and am not riding from the seat adequately. This is a common problem for people coming from hunters. I have found lots and lots of transitions between and within walk and trot, and doing a lot more work at sitting trot have helped immensely. Good sitting trot, with a quiet hand and relaxed but active leg aids is hard work if your independent seat is lacking, and you are only riding three days a week, and your horse has BIG gaits. But working on achieving that pays dividends. Work, work work. Lots of sitting trot to working walk using the seat and leg to ask the horse to step into the DOWNWARD transition. I try and keep it all soft and quiet… But with the horse still engaged and in front of my leg.
If you focus on fundamentals and correct principles, I think it really does apply to all disciplines at the low levels. Maybe people competing at Grand Prix on a Warmblood can get into a big debate with someone who trains and rides Iberian horses using different methods about modern vs. classical. and maybe both of those people think an eventer competing a TB at Prelim or above and trying to put in a competitive dressage test is really going about it with several deficiencies in terms of their training methodology… But the basics are the basics, and I think they’re pretty universal. I personally have a TON more work to do on the basics before I need to think about different methods of upper level training.
If your coaches don’t seem to be able to help you achieve the basics… Move on. Don’t buy into a ton of chatter and talk of theory, and gadgets. The basics are the basics, and the foundation of everything. Leg to hand, a good connection, adjustable and supple. And if someone has you trotting around forever without much contact, and without your horse engaging their hind end, chatting about theory… Huh. Its going to take a lonnnggg time to make progress. Sounds a bit like a “classikal maestro” type. Especially if that same coach was the one with the accent. Is this the same person that was also an FEI rider? When? Where? Have you checked their scores? Watch out for the all “talk” but no “do” types… There are a lot of them out there.