@Scribbler, i really do appreciate how much you care. I think it’s very admirable. My trainer knows my story and my horse’s story, and luckily is very compassionate and patient with me. It’s been a very hard road and we’ve gone it alone. My support system is small and comprises of the people at my barn but for a long time it was just me and my horse by ourselves surrounded by those who pitied me. I don’t want to dwell too much on that story but I am happy to share if with you if you ever need entertainment.
Things are finally coming out from the depths of the hell we were in, so that’s always very encouraging. I don’t have as much experience in the competitive world as some of my friends because I was never given, nor financially had, the opportunity. So I feel a few steps behind everyone else.
My trainer just brought us back to 2’ verticals. Leaser jumps much much higher than me and I am 100% content just slowly climbing back up to my previous level after some really severe confidence knocks. I’ve gotten over all of those terrors and anxieties and Mare and I trust each other again, so it’s time to pull myself up by my bootstraps!
I feel comfortable talking to everyone on COTH. Like i’ve mentioned we’re a ragtag bunch of riders who are sort of grassrooting, so we’re all pretty much at ground 0 with sprinkles of experience. I don’t have the huge network I used to at my old barn, so COTH supplements for that.
I do really want to thank everyone who has helped me these past couple of months with all my questions and concerns. It’s really meant so, so much.
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Relating back to dressage, this horse and I are learning together. She’s spectacular and while I’ve never sat on a GP dressage horse before (ONE COMES IN MARCH for me to ride!!) , we are creeping along and these movements are becoming easier and easier for her. I’m also finding I am an important piece in the puzzle. My balance and mental attitude really does affect her. If I’m half-hearted about something, she’s not as inclined to do it.
Dressage has changed our lives so tremendously and made our rocky relationship one of trust and, i’d say, love. I can sit her spooks, her bucks, and i no longer feel intimidated because I have the balance and core strength to keep myself atop of her.
I’m glad to know there’s somewhat of an interpretative answer to my question, and there are those who have experienced the differences I have. I feel like the classical route wasn’t for us but I have also seen how heavy-handed riding can ruin a horse (a lower-level eventer trained by rollkur-lady is an example). I admit, @Scribbler, right now I’m muddled about the difference between “heavy handed” and “heavy contact,” and I’m eager to differentiate the two so I can apply them to my rides and check myself.