After spending some very traumatic times at a barn where I also worked at (and the BO turned out to be a complete whackoo), I moved my two horses - an older gelding and a youngster to a very remote, private barn. There are not a lot of other boarders, two of them have been my closest friends for years and the BO is also extremely nice. The pastures are huge, the care is perfect - I’ve literally nothing to complain about.
Until I started working with/backing my youngster who is turning four. He’s an emotional one and didn’t have the best upbringing before I bought him - learned to tear away from the handler at stressful situations. The companions who share this barn with me have:
- A calm 19yo gelding
- An extremely placid 4yo mare with a very slow reaction span to anything
- And the BO quit backing her “youngster” at 7yo because he bucked her off once.
Now there’s me with this explosive, young WB and, although there are fireworks, I am managing perfectly fine to deal with him and to train him. I also never bother others, as I work him in the arena alone, and he’s perfect to handle in the barn (feeding, turnout etc.). Not new to backing youngsters either (11 years of experience - not a lifetime, but still). My friends, however, feel it’s their place to railbird my training sessions, to give unsolicited advice (like, when we’re on a simple walk-in-hand, you could suddenly hear a command-like suggestion: Now stop him and make him back up, he’s being disrespectful! - out of blue air!) or literally trying to run up to me while he’s having a temper tantrum on the lunge line to try and take away the line and “show how it’s done”.
I truly love these people but lately I’ve been feeling very frustrated and almost like moving barns, because it seems just like because my youngster is a bit more spirited than the rest of the herd, that means I’m doing something wrong. Guess what, not all horses have the same dispositions and an emotional horse does not mean a horse out of control?! However, I’d be very sad to disappoint or offend them, so I’ve been very wary to snap back.
English is not my first language and I hope I’m able to carry my thoughts across…