What is most interesting here is, I went back and read the OP’s posts and they go out of their way to be complimentary to others, and the barn they were at and all that.
But then these two show up and are just not nice back.
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Agreed. When I was reading this in real time, it seemed pretty respectful to those involved.
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Yeah nicely written and full of lies 
And sorry for the laundry. I thought that she is true friend of mine for a really long time. One of my best friends ever. Unfortunately it turned out otherwise. I read this thread and got really emotional, angry and sad. Honesty and truthfulness are things I value in my friends (and people in general) above all else. So it was and is painful to acknowledge that my friendship with her was one sided in reality.
I understand that she has a lot of problems. And everything that we feel like help, she has like an attack. And unfortunately can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself.
I definitely was codependent for a while, which I really didn’t like. Decided not to allow it anymore, start speaking very directly about the things that worried me, hurt me. And she started avoiding me. Probably because I’m a bad person and a control freak. :))
Its so sad expect something like this from friends. 
Well, if I had to board with one of the 3 of them, I know which one I’d pick.
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you and your friends are delighting in this
it was 6 months dead
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I’m not understanding how “they’re a bad person and lied to me” makes it okay to interfere in that person’s training sessions with their horse. 
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Because those are lies too. To be more precise she tells half a truth that makes her victim and does not mention the other part. Her youngster running away from her and running uncontrollably in arena where small beginner child is taking lessons. When she didin’t like being advised to back her horse while walking, she forgots to mention that before that advise her horse had already broke loose once and ran away and the other persons horse was getting stressed and all the situation was getting dangerous. Etc.
This is perfect!
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I have nothing to be happy about here. You don’t have to believe me, that’s oky.
Your comment and its nasty tone are only serving to reinforce the original poster’s complaints.
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it is not an issue of believing or not.
the issue is that an anonymous person who very like few to none of us know came with a problem. We heard her story and responded.
It is not about YOU, yet another anonymous person.
the “rest of the story” does not need to be known. You are not known and needing to be defended. If this were an issue of well known members of the community being called out and slandered by name, then a hearing in the court of popular opinion might be in need of defense and the rest of the story
She did not call out names we simply responded to the situation. It serves as a subject lesson for others. We do not have to go back now and say “Shame on you for not giving all of the story”. Usually on the forums the situations are more generic and helpful to a wide audience, We are not going to solve all of her problems but just perhaps, someone in the future might find the words written helpful.
the saying goes, “Somewhere in the middle is the truth”
if you and your friend feel damaged, that is on you . and for you to work out, or not, between yourselves. It certainly does not need to be hashed out on a thread that has been dead 6 months.
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Oh dear. Prospective new boarder visited the barn while I was there today. For 30 minutes she did not stop talking. Telling a long long account of every nuance of something horsey she was doing. I could easily see her fitting into that assessment.
How she was breathing, I don’t know, it was a constant flow with no room for a word in edgewise. (I wasn’t chatting with her, just overheard the tour.) I suspect that for people who talk non-stop there actually is a contest for oxygen between heart and vocals.
She seems like a perfectly nice person. But by the time she was sorta-leaving I was hoping she doesn’t move in. BO is also a big talker (but nowhere near this lady), so maybe while discussing possible boarding they will both talk so much that the boarding never gets done. 
BO is traveling at the moment and it was BO’s DH who was giving the ‘tour’ (he didn’t get to say much but I don’t think he cared). I said sorta-leaving because it took this lady another 15-20 minutes to walk to her car, get in her car, finally close the window and drive away … because talking talking talking non-stop to BO DH.
I don’t want to be trapped by a talker who doesn’t let you get on with the next thing. And when I do get on with it anyway, maybe it looks rude. But I always have the magic word “later”. “Sorry I have to start my ride now but we can talk more about this later!” 
Thought stream to this lady: Board somewhere else … board somewhere else …
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I can’t STAND people like this. Life is too short, they’re too rude in their endless chatter, I have zero problems simply walking away from people like this.
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