“now can afford good horse and health problems…”
(points to self) ding ding ding!
People get old. “Old” in a competitive sport is 35, for most sports. For dressage, it’s older, of course, but to do well at the higher levels, to compete successfully, no, you never get away, totally, from the truth of it - that this is a sport - a physical sport. Mostly competitions conducted in the summer, and one simply is kidding oneself if one thinks one can do really well being over weight, out of shape, ill, etc. HOW MANY times have I been at a show where riders got sunstroke - surprisingly often, actually.
The older one gets, the more one runs risks that something…SOMETHING is going to crop up and make it very, very hard to compete. That is just one more burden that makes it even harder.
It’s just not possible for some people to understand, Magnum. You get someone that’s SO defensive about their choices/what’s happened to them, you can’t talk reason to them.
But what people don’t have, I think, is a fundamental respect for dressage. Yes, actually, I think that’s the problem. I think most people make a very superficial lip service to having respect for the sport, they THINK they respect it, but that’s all.
Unfortunately, I see it happen very often. People WANT to do really well, as much as they try to hide it or shout, 'It’s about the journey! I love my horsey!"
They get very resentful and angry as time goes on, and they wonder WHY they don’t do as well as they want. They very often have unrealistic expectations, don’t get enough lessons…think they can learn without an instructor…go from instructor to instructor without picking up a real system, just a bag of tricks that they don’t really know how to use, their training lacks continuity and focus and progress…who’s at fault? Why the judges, the other riders who can afford better horses - you name it…
No, actually, it’s not ‘just good sportsmanship’ that I described.
It’s about understanding the sport - realizing what it takes - knowing that others take a different course - that they NEED to take a different course - accepting one’s own choices - AND other people’s choices. I frankly can’t imagine anyone arguing with What Sydnor said. Maybe quibble about what words are used, or whatever, or if you absolutely MUST, go ahead and try to make it ia little more politically correct if you absolutely MUST (barf). We were talking about this thread last night and my SO said, ‘Son of a gun, I guess they CAN argue with simple reality!’
And by and large, it’s about forgetting the myths you learn here. This bulletin board is the biggest source of online information on dressage that I know of - but it’s also a huge source of MIS information, and really lousy, unproductive attitudes.