Honey was not eating what she was provided initially. So the OP has been patiently trying to refeed her. I’ve spoken to her privately about her struggles and she’s doing a fabulous job. She is trying to learn, and she needs to have something that Honey will eat — priority #1. Because if she won’t eat it, it won’t matter. And by the way - TC was something I used to love, but the horses here started refusing it (even the less picky ones) last summer and I got the memo.
Anyway, she’s also been trying to get the other parts of Honey straightened out. After years of neglect, there may be arthritis issues, training issues, and other issues that have cropped up. Though she’s not talking a rescue refeed, she IS talking about a horse who has not, in the past, been well taken care of.
OP is a new horse owner. She’s going through a lot. She had a ROUGH go with her former horse. Harsh words do not help. They never do - not for ANYONE. No one takes them well, and if you think you do, I’ve got a few for you. She wants the best for Honey.
This girl isn’t going out there galloping endless circles with an unfit underweight horse. She’s not jumping courses, like some 4H kids I’ve seen doing exactly that on older lesson horses with far worse BCS (and yes, I was horrified and reported it to the show management). Older horses CAN and DO have a harder time keeping weight on, and the fact that she likely hasn’t learned to come over her back yet is going to make the lack of muscling worse.
With that, I’ll say the OP is working really hard to help her horse, and it’s obvious that she cares for her. I did worry when she first started posting that the COTH-claws were going to come out, and they did.
It’s a shame, because it chases away the people that we could help the most as a community. OP doesn’t want cheerleaders per se, but she DOES want people to give positive, constructive feedback and we can all tell the difference.