How would you handle this? Unqualified peeps blanketing horses at barn

[J-Lu]

BOs were out of town for Christmas with a parent, the first Christmas one BOs parent was having since the death of spouse. Not a normal situation. I didn’t want to call out of respect for that experience. I knew the spouse was having a hard time since the death of her spouse.

Horse reacted when bumping nose on the electric fence but he knows it is there. Daughter isn’t experienced and she relayed this to me. My horse is very athletic and reacted. To me, this was a concern for both parties involved.

[J-Lu]

Oh Please. The OP was considering abandoning her account because she thought she was hacked? You usually post posts like this. And that’s why I disengage. You can’t complain about snark, it is often what you put out there.

[J-Lu]

Oh please!

[K_VanOlst]

@J-Lu

You can’t complain about snark, it is often what you put out there.

The irony

[endlessclimb]

@J-Lu

And that’s why I disengage.

Well, go on now. Shoo.

[RhythmNCruise]

@J-Lu

Oh Please. The OP was considering abandoning her account because she thought she was hacked?

Yes. Did you read the OP’s posts about the confusion on her thread?

@Mustang_Levi

It appears I’ve been hacked. I’m not @J-Lu-but the “real” Mustang Levi! I am thinking of deleting my account and opening under a new name to stop the hack. Has anyone else been hacked on this sight? Too bad because the posts on my horse issue have been great and I’ve been enjoying all the comments and trying some on Buddy. Sorry this internet “glitch” happened and have no idea why!

It’s all resolved now, and she knows what happened and that it was an honest mistake on your part.

[Simkie]

@J-Lu

Oh Please. The OP was considering abandoning her account because she thought she was hacked?

I can’t tell if you just didn’t bother to read the thread you snarked on, or if you’re mocking the OP of that thread for her concern and worry over your posts.

Both reflect poorly on you

[enjoytheride]

I had someone go crazy on me when I tried to change a blanket in a field without a halter and now I always halter and tie the horse. This seems like an incredibly easy thing to resolve, or not even have to resolve (tie horse and don’t blanket near hotwire. done. ) but I can see how it got blown up based on the OPs responses to conflict in this thread.

[stargzng386]

Did you message them while they were out of town? Did you message on Christmas Day?

This 100% could have waited until they were back if you insist on addressing it with them. I would have just chatted with the daughter and left it at that.

[enjoytheride]

I don’t see why it had to go any further than “chuckle chuckle, I’m glad you didn’t get hurt when he touched the hotwire. Have you thought about tying him away from it when blanketing?” To devolve into multiple emails and a meeting says the problem either lies with the boarder or the BO or both. The OP has had some reactions to this thread so I wonder.

[FitzE]

@J-Lu

BOs were out of town for Christmas with a parent, the first Christmas one BOs parent was having since the death of spouse. Not a normal situation. I didn’t want to call out of respect for that experience. I knew the spouse was having a hard time since the death of her spouse.

Just FYI going forward: if you had concern about a situation like this and were not ringing out of respect for their difficulty, you should also have not emailed/texted/etc. for the same reason. The email about this was a disrespectful and inappropriate at that time as a phone call would have been.

You were correct in your instinct not to ring them at a difficult and holiday time; that should have been applied to other forms of communication about this issue as well. Nothing but a legit emergency should have prompted you to communicate with them at that time about a problem. It easily could have waited until they return and got their feet back under them, at which point you could have spoken face-to-face.

[J-Lu]

Reported.

[J-Lu]

I’m sure you can tell. Sometimes, people just don’t want to.

[J-Lu]

No, I did not message them on Christmas day. My concern was for the daughter based on what she said. I’m happy you would have just chatted with the daughter. I was concerned with what she described to me. Thanks!

[Simkie]

@J-Lu

I’m sure you can tell. Sometimes, people just don’t want to.

Even after you’ve been so routinely awful to people here, I’d still really like to believe you’re better than openly mocking someone for their concern when you mistakenly and rudely post on their thread.

But I guess not.

It is impressive how you just keep setting that bar a little lower.

[J-Lu]

Of course I’ve had reaction to this thread based on some of the hostile reactions.

The safety of people not particularly qualified to work with horses is not “chuckle chuckle”. I’m guessing you and I have very different ideas about safety around horses. I obviously did not give her instruction about how to blanket horses - that is her parents job to approach, not mine. Wonder all you want about my reactions to some of the posts here. Some of the posts are very uncalled for and make assumptions. I’m guessing you can’t see that and have no interest in clarifying anything.

[J-Lu]

Thanks, I sent the email on the day they were supposed to return said the daughter. They did not return until the next day. They initially did not address the actual problem because of factors, which prompted my response. Things weren’t sorted out until we met.

IMO, the difficulty was with the daughter handling horses in their absence. It could have been an emergency.

[SMF11]

It sounds like the daughter wasn’t ideal, but it is impossible to find someone to feed on Christmas! It sounds like this trip was important to them and their daughter was “good enough” in a pinch.

[enjoytheride]

@J-Lu

Of course I’ve had reaction to this thread based on some of the hostile reactions.

The safety of people not particularly qualified to work with horses is not “chuckle chuckle”. I’m guessing you and I have very different ideas about safety around horses. I obviously did not give her instruction about how to blanket horses - that is her parents job to approach, not mine. Wonder all you want about my reactions to some of the posts here. Some of the posts are very uncalled for and make assumptions. I’m guessing you can’t see that and have no interest in clarifying anything.

This is an incredibly easy issue to resolve that has been blown way out of proportion.

[SillyHorse]

@J-Lu

Reported.

Are you in fifth grade or something?