Disclosure: I have never hunted in my life, but plans are set to go for my first time ever this spring. I can’t even tell you how excited I am-- this has been a dream of mine since I was a little girl. I’ve been reading up on everything I can get my hands on (including this forum), got the book “Riding to Hounds in America,” etc., etc., so I hopefully don’t embarrass myself.
I have no ethical dilemmas with the “hunting” part of fox hunting… I grew up on a working beef farm, hubby and I raise our own meat rabbits, so I’m OK with the possibility of a kill. However, from what I’ve read, the primary goal of American hunts (as opposed to British ones) isn’t generally to kill the fox, and a kill is the exception, not the rule.
So here’s my dilemma… one of my dearest friends is English, and she has major issues with the whole fox hunting thing, fully supports the ban in the U.K., etc. She actually hunted a few times when she was younger (and “didn’t realize what was really going on,” as she puts it), but she’s rather upset about my excitement to try fox hunting.
We’ve known each other for years, she knows my background re: growing up on a farm, is fine with the fact that we raise our own meat, etc., etc., but she’s REALLY upset about this fox hunting thing… not to the point where it’s going to destroy our friendship or anything, but whenever the topic comes up, her comments are along the lines of, “I’m so disappointed that you would want to do something so barbaric, you have no idea how cruel it is to the foxes, to be ripped apart by the hounds or beat to death by the huntsmen,” stuff like that. She’s fine with raising animals to slaughter because, in her mind, they have a humane death, whereas the poor fox is tortured for sport.
I’ve tried explaining to her that, from what I understand, it’s different here than it is (or was) in England, but having never hunted myself, I don’t have any real-world examples to cite.
Any thoughts? Insights? Talking points to assure her that I’m not some crazed monster for wanting to do this?
Please don’t suggest I discontinue our friendship-- she is one of my closest friends and will continue to be so; she’s really a wonderful person, not the “PETA” type generally, except where fox hunting is concerned. I know I’m not going to change her mind, but I’m pretty sure fox hunting in America isn’t exactly what she thinks it is.