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It is choosing your own morals over those of your husband. Or, it is choosing your individuality over the partnership. Or, it is being independent rather than being subservient. There are many ways to describe it, but “choosing cats over your husband” is not one that is remotely accurate.
In this case, she has a big house and several options. She also supports the cats out of her own funds. Now, where is the “partnership” when so many of you suggest that she should not be spending “his” money, but should only spend “her” money. The partnership description falls apart and, as usually happens, that “partnership” description seems to be used only to restrict the woman “partner’s” actions or expenditures.[/QUOTE]
I didn’t suggest that she shouldn’t spend his money and i CERTAINLY did not suggest that she should be subservient. She has rescued 5 cats and has hit her husbands limit, at that point his right to live in the house and be comfortable is EQUALLY as important as her right to rescue animals she feels morally obligated to. Therefore her right doesn’t override his and he’s not asking her to get rid of their current situation, just not to add anymore. To honor his request would not be subservience but acknowledging your partners right to be as happy and comfortable in your shared life as you are.
