I had ridden a little as a kid, but no formal lessons. Was looking at the want ads when I was 32 yrs old (12 yrs ago), was a tiny ad for horses to lease $100 a month. Used to love riding the chances I did as a kid, so called.
Leased a 6 yr old, PJ, he put up w/me twice a week, I could ride him up and down the county roads, or in fields, really, it was like he knew I would leave him alone, so he just agreed.
The people let me use their tack, but I slowely got my own, English, after a year, they decided to downsize, sell the horses and prop, so I bought PJ.
Moved him to a boarding barn, had a month honeymoon, then all hell started to break loose, the problem was I had treated him like a dog and now, was coming out more often.
Never got actually hurt, but he was striking and rearing, total lack of respect, thankfully, got help when I really needed it.
Learned the basics, PJ was fine, was really me that needed the training. Life was good, got a trailer, did a LOT of trail riding, PJ and I were a team, or so I thought…
About 2007, was at a AQHA trail ride. They had a trainer, Tim Boyer, put on a small clinic and address people’s issues. I just watched, was ENTHRALLED, I wanted to learn how to do THAT!!!
Tim Boyer had learned from Ray Hunt and Tom Dorrance, was really the first time I had ever heard their names before them.
Seems so stupid now, but he could stand anywhere and put his foot out, his horse would line up the stirrup EXACTLY for the foot, his horse WATCHED him, waited for him, was there whenever he needed.
Tim Boyer had a clinic the next weekend, was a two day, went to it, and was totally HOOKED!! Was at a really nice place, fun group of people, hung out after the clinic, went to dinner, then back around the fire pit, lots of stories & wisdom.
Was clear that this was NOT about training a horse, but about life, Tim is one of those guys that may not talk a lot, BUT what he says has a deep meaning!
I did as many of his clinics as I could, I had been taking lessons from a lady, Carrie, then too. Once winter came, I talked our BO into having Tim for a clinic, Carrie did it. Mostly, out of respect to our BO.
Didn’t enjoy it at all, had a horse that didn’t like the flag, and was pissed that Tim was using the flag to move her horse.
Clinic was full, most everyone had fun, Carrie didn’t make a point to say she didn’t, but this came afterwards…
This is my example of turning loose…
Some background, Carrie is the sweetest lady, her students typically win at fairs and shows, she is very good at teaching, I learned a lot from her, probably took lessons from her for around a year, BUT I DO NOT REMEMBER MUCH ABOUT Pre-TIM Carrie.
She is a VERY, VERY good rider, but when she came to the clinic, she had already decided that Tim didn’t have anything for her to learn, she already KNEW EVERYTHING. She was cocky and close minded, Tim didn’t really spend a LOT of time w/her on much, wasn’t rude, but prob figured out pretty quick that she wasn’t ready to learn much.
She went home, and in the next day, completely lost it, started to cry, basically, realized that she did NOT know everything, I think she may have been loading a horse or something that paralleled into something that Tim had said in his clinic. I think she tried something from Tim, and it worked, WELL.
She looked inside and realized that she DID have more to learn, wrote Tim a letter, saying how sorry she was to act the way she did, not giving Tim a chance, etc, that she would really like to ride w/him sometime.
Tim called her back the day he got the letter, invited her to his barn, and they have ridden together many times, are close friends now.
SHE has become such a much better horsewoman. I have gotten to be pretty close w/her, is a friend, but meeting Tim changed her too, but even more profound.
Since then, Carrie has ridden w/Buck & Martin Black, she liked both, but really LOVED Martin.
Her mind is totally open, and as a teacher, she is SOOO much better, sooooo turning loose can be a pretty big process.
As a person, I think she is much happier too. So, really, it isn’t just about training horses.
About me, I rode English, did a little jumping, but slowly shifted back to more western, tho, I am kinda a mutt. I dress for comfort, so wear English paddock boots, riding tights, but a very comfortable Western saddle. Ride in a plain snaffle.
I board my two horses, so love riding vacations whether, trail riding or clinics. So, I do my share of clinics every summer, but again, is an excuse to hang out w/friends and my horse.
But I rely on my weekly riding lesson to really learn and improve. I totally agree, most people prob do have good horseman around them to learn from, if they looked.
I think so much is made from the big name trainers, that people go that route instead of regular lessons. People are usually, so overwhelmed, it takes them awhile to even process what is being taught.
I listen to everyone, then take bits and pieces for what works for me. People I have learned from is Carrie, Tim Boyer, Jud Carter, Martin Black (audited four of his clinics), Buck (audited one clinic, like his Dvd’s), and Mark Schwarm. There are prob several more than I am not thinking of at the moment, but what I can think of now.