So, what happened?
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Now I am dying to know what exactly you saw on your new cameras!!!
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Ok, add me as another person who is dying to know what happened. I hope it has since been resolved, OP.
Hmm. So it did reach a certain level of cray-cray, I take it?
I had a boyfriend who thought that since he could sort of neck rein a horse he rode while working at a dude ranch, he knew how to ride western and didn’t need to take lessons in western riding which were offered at the college he was applying to.:rolleyes:
I’m sorry, OP. This sounds awful. I hope you and your horse are okay.
Add me to the list of people who are interested in how it escalated and (hopefully) was resolved!
I’ve hesitated to step in because fighting clear aggression with even more clear aggression sometimes (um, usually) means adding legal fees to the budget.
But here goes. First in most jurisdictions you can obtain a stalking injunction without paying an attorney and you can appear in court without an attorney. Go to your local court’s website (either state or municipal) and try to find information on “stalking.” If you are able to obtain a stalking order you willl need to have the Sheriff serve it on your neighbor. Stalking applications are usually low cost to file in court, and you can find out in advance what your county Sheriff charges for process service - usually a fairly reasonable flat fee or flat fee plus mileage which you will need to pay in advance after you get a court-certified copy of of the stalking order. Because these things usually fall under the criminal statutes you should not hire a private process server - you will need to use the Sheriff. Ask the Sheriff at the time how you are supposed to report any violations of the stalking order once served on your neighbor, some jurisdictions have very specific instructions about how and where to call in a violation and it is not always 9-1-1 unless firearms are iinvolved. Second, if you don’t want to go toe to toe in that manner, have an attorney write a “cease and desist” letter which is usually sent via regular mail and certified/return receipt for signature. Both are done because regular mail not “returned to sender” is deemed to have been received; the certified is usually not accepted by the person getting it, they either refuse acceptance or simply do not claim it but either way the non-acceptance is evidence that in the event, heaven forbid, this ends up in court, will be accepted into evidence. Third: get really aggressive and file a lawsuit.
You are in an extremely dangerouos situation with this neighbor. I’ve been there, done that, and had a horse murdered by a crazy neighbor so I’m suggesting to you that at this point is it NOTHING to mess around with. Good luck and please, please stay safe and keep your critters safe. With these kinds of people, the ways their minds work, you cannot predict when they will snap and do something truly, truly bad.
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I think it’s very much a generational thing sometimes (she’s in her 60s, I’m in my 30s); you know Boomers grew up without cell phones and you usually just went over to your neighborhood friend’s house to see if they were home. But regardless, rude people are going to be rude no matter what.
That’s ridiculous. Boomers grew up with land lines and the polite ones always called before going to a neighbor’s house.
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I’m sorry it got worse, OP. Will you give us an update when you can? I hope you and your horse are OK.
I think it’s very much a generational thing sometimes (she’s in her 60s, I’m in my 30s); you know Boomers grew up without cell phones and you usually just went over to your neighborhood friend’s house to see if they were home. But regardless, rude people are going to be rude no matter what.
That’s ridiculous. Boomers grew up with land lines and the polite ones always called before going to a neighbor’s house.
well actually both statements are not completely correct
yes in the olden days there were land line phone with real operators… many of the homes had party line phones …any one on that line could listen in on any coversation…and the operators could also… so secrets were not commonly contained in the olden times
as for when “cell phones came about” … before the hand held things there were portable phones, those go back into the late 1940s… sure they were not the same as they operated on standard radio waves but I knew several people who had them mounted in their cars.
as for the hand held cell phones, we had them for our business use in the very early 1980s… expensive but worthwhile
I tied a message to my pet dinosaur and sent it over to the neighbor’s before stopping by.
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I did and she continued to walk onto it unasked until they moved a good while later. It got far worse than you realise sadly
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Thanks but I overcame my nerves, learned every single thing I could, put in one hundred percent effort and I dare say I’ve made a great job of my horse 
he’s a pretty solid citizen now 
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Well ok, now we all need a complete and thorough update of your neighbour’s shenanigans.
Give it has been four years and we are all now invested.
So. Deets. Givum. Pleeeeeease.
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They moved after divorcing a couple of years later, very sad for them despite the abnormal behaviour! The interest from her lessened as time went on, but she could never resist the odd snarky comment in passing 
I learned to quietly ignore it and lock the gates!! Wish it was more of an interesting update haha!
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“Interesting updates” from an intrusive, PITA neighbors are rarely a good thing so I am thankful for your sake that it was uninteresting!
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From reading through this thread, I think you are all spot on - horses definitely can be a weirdo-boundary-pushing magnet. I ran a co-op barn on a private estate that was hosting a movie crew for a movie about the Salem Witch Trials. One of the crew liked my Appy gelding and asked if she could ride him sometime. I told her, ‘Yes, let’s find a time and I’ll take you out. on him.’ When I showed up to feed the next day, she was riding my horse around the movie set. When I complained to the estate owner, she gave me the best lesson. She said, ‘Well, did you say no?’ and when I said that I hadn’t said no, but offered to take her out riding, she said, 'No means no, and for some people, if they don’t hear no, it means yes, so remember the value of saying No. If someone is ballsy enough to ask you something you don’t want to do, you should feel comfortable about just saying no." Lesson learned the hard way but what a valuable one. For years afterward, when people would ask if they could ride one of my horses, the answer was a simple, “No.” No explanation needed and wow, it worked.
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