Do not even go there, it is not your time. Sorry but tough as it is what you need to do now is live your life to the fullest, as she did. That is the message of those who pass to early…to the rest of the world, live every day as if it were your last, because one day it will be. Respect her memory and example, and get out there and do everything.
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I don’t mean to be mean, but my other aunt texted me today worrying about what some on this board told her about what I was saying. I appreciate you being concerned, but I want whatever I say to stay on here please. I am fine. This is a place for me to let my feelings out and I don’t want my immediate family to know anything. I would really appreciate it. Thanks.
I also don’t mean to be mean, or harsh or anything, but…
The reality is this board is in no way private, whatever you share here people can freely access.
The horse community is small it doesn’t take much to put two and two together, and it could be someone who isn’t a member here who made contact.
Whoever reaches out did so out of genuine concern for you, some issues are better dealt with face to face rather than anonymously.
People here are largely concerned about each other, and have often worked together to get real life support for those who they believe would benefit from it.
Maybe you would benefit from a more private venue to work through your thoughts and feelings?
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Unless you communicate with other members via private messaging (PM) these boards do not work that way. What is posted on COTH forums is public not private. Anyone can view what is written on them even if they are not a member with the exception of Off Topic. The Eventing forum is not in off topic therefore it is public.
Your relatives were told about this thread during the PA memorial services. In part due to concerns about how upset you were about your Aunt’s passing and how you expressed those concerns and in part for your family to realize how much of an impact kcmel meant to our on-line CoTH community and to the horse community in PA. Your family is probably not being told what you are saying on this forum but actually reading this thread.
I will tell you what many other members have already told you please seek help to deal with your grief. We all say this because we are concerned with the on going level of grief you are expressing. We are concerned about your continued wishes to join her rather than deal with the grief and continuing living your life. The way you are expressing your thoughts about your level of grief is concerning.
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Dear Brad, I don’t know your family and only knew your Auntie from this forum.
If someone mentioned to your folks that they were worried about you, they were just concerned about you and were trying to help.
This is a public place and anyone can read our posts.
When you write that you sometimes feel like you want to join your Auntie, it seems that you are saying that sometimes you feel like you wish you were dead. That may worry people, so much that they want your folks to know how bad you are feeling.
You can always post here but it is a public forum with many members.
Hang in there Brad, I know it is very difficult, but loss is a part of life. It takes time to work through your feelings and your grief. :yes:
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I post here, because you all had a connection with Melanie, I guess I come here, because I know all of you are good people who cared about her and when I post here, I feel better each I do, because this is the place where Melanie did her posts about horses. I feel connected her somehow, I can’t explain it.
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That’s nice Brad. Everyone liked her, whether they knew her in person or just from here on the forum.
I think everyone here just wants to make sure you’re OK and that you also talk about your feelings with your family. :yes:
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How are you all holding up with the corona virus going on?
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It’s the same ole same ole here since I’m retired in the suburbs and used to making due with just essentials. The biggest problem for me has been trail access since Federal and State park trailheads are closed, leaving only county ones that we all have to share at distances of six feet. Feed stores and vets offer curbside service. I am fortunate to have a daughter who supplies me with anything else.
How are you holding up? The spring is magnificent here with wildflowers and tall green grass.
Take care
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Hi @Brad . We have stay at home orders, we can only go out to pharmacy, grocery store, pet/livestock food and other things deemed “essential”. Only essential businesses are open.
Face coverings are to be worn when in public, those without masks (most people) are wearing scarves and bandanas which makes the grocery store look as if it is full of bandits.
My pharmacist joked that he feels like he’s being robbed when people come to the counter.
We had a foot of snow here overnight. The heavy wet kind that breaks tree branches.
Hope you and your family are well and staying safe.:yes:
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I’m glad to hear it everyone.
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I know Melanie wouldn’t of liked this.
I don’t think any of like it. However as a scientist Melanie would have understood how important it is for all of us to stay at home and when we have to go in public to social distance and wear our masks.
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Yes, I know. One of the most intelligent people I knew and fortunately be related to. I’m glad I have her in me.
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I’m glad you knew my aunt in person,she was probably one of the best people I ever knew.
I just heard from my aunt that Melanies husband Gordon is in mental decline since this happened. This is all so sad and tragic. She died in his arms and when you think about it, it’s a tragic love story. They were married for over 20 years and they had so much in common and deeply loved one another. They were two peas in a pod. The business they started is about to go bankrupt, because Melanie was the brains of the business. Nancy said Gordon just suddenly stopped texting her. It’s bad for my uncle Gordon right now and I have no idea how he handles it. I would have a nervous breakdown and probably be committed.
brad, I am sorry to hear this but I think you should delete #215 message. You are using poor judgement posting such personal information.
thank you moderator 1 for the removal!
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Am I the only one that thinks Brads posts are off? Like he is not who he says he is?
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Cindy CRNA, I was concerned about the same thing. But I was able to find out that Brad is not a confused teenager. He is in his 30’s, has a college degree and a responsible job. From reading his posts, there have been more than a few awkward / questionable comments about his uncle (Melanie’s husband)… While it is admirable that so many COTH folks are being so kind in their responses, out of respect for the woman who passed, and her husband, it really might be best if people here would realize that they might be being manipulated to provide information on Melanie’s husband. And that would be so very sad.
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