It makes me anxious to share this, but it’s relevant to this topic… so here it is.
I had a mare that was diagnosed with kissing spines. She became dangerous and unpredictable under saddle, but was happy enough hanging out in the pasture with her buddies. I only owned her for a couple of years, but of course I became very attached to her. I tried to do everything I could to help with the kissing spines (worked with an equine lameness specialist, diet specifically recommended by vet to promote topline strength, long and low exercise on the lunge, time off from riding, injections, saddles fitted to her by professional fitters, bodywork, etc etc), but stopped short of surgery because it just wasn’t in the budget.
This mare was special to me, but nothing special otherwise. She was registered but with unremarkable bloodlines, and very quirky and sensitive both on the ground and in the saddle. Not an easy horse to manage or handle. She had very little value overall, looking at her from an objective point of few.
So, what to do?! She was somewhat young - early teens. I don’t make a tremendous amount of money and I just really couldn’t justify keeping an incredibly expensive pasture ornament for 10+ years that was difficult to handle and dangerous to ride. I reached out to her breeder and offered to give the mare to her with full disclosure of all the issues and where things stood, and the breeder said she couldn’t take on another horse. I offered to give her to people within my network that I knew would give her a good home, but all declined (understandably). She had a uterus and she was registered… but I did not consider her to be broodmare quality. She was pretty squirrely and who knows if that was innate, or due to past experiences. And she just wasn’t all that special in terms of bloodlines. She was built well enough and moved well enough, but she was nothing remarkable.
I decided to spend a few months trying to find her a home, and was prepared to euthanize if I couldn’t. I was not going to give this mare away to anybody and risk her ending up on a truck to Mexico, or stuck in a backyard situation with subpar care. I made the mistake of telling some folks that euthanasia was potentially on the table, and things got messy. Lesson learned.
Thankfully, I was able to find her a home with a family that had acreage and loved horses, but they didn’t ride. I was able to visit their property beforehand and see their animals, the property was safe and well maintained, the animals all looked great, and I had a good gut feeling about the people. Of course I was completely honest about everything and handed over all vet records, and I was very clear that this mare was dangerous when ridden, and if for some reason they couldn’t keep her, they could reach out to me and I would figure something out. It worked out well - she is now a pasture ornament with buddies, living a happy life.
I do think I would have probably euthanized if I could not have found a home. I guess some would see this as convenience since the mare was pasture sound. I hope that doesn’t make me a bad person. It is just SO much money to keep a horse these days when you don’t have your own property and you have to pay for boarding. Quality care and facilities do not come cheap. Even for pasture board - if you want quality pasture with good hay and shelter and safe fencing, you will pay for it. Self care was not an option since at the time I lived in the middle of a major metropolitan area and all horse facilities were a significant drive.
She was my last riding horse, and I don’t know that I will ever buy another. With the state of our economy and the insane cost to own and maintain a horse, I just don’t know what the future holds. I think the only way I would buy again would be if I had my own property and could guarantee that I could keep and retire if I was faced with a similar situation. I never want to go through that again… it was gut-wrenching and an absolute nightmare.