I scheduled a lesson with a top trainer even though I currently ride with a different trainer. My trainer knows this top trainer fairly well. I didn’t “clear it” through my trainer before scheduling a lesson with top trainer because I don’t want my trainer to go with me.
Last time I rode in clinic my trainer went with me to watch I ended up having to pay for EVERYTHING for her (gas, hotel room, etc) even though she didn’t help me with anything. Trainer spent the whole time trying to talk over my clinic lesson. In the video you can hear her shouting over the clinician on what I should do.
Also, because my trainer knows top trainer, it will end up being my trainer talking to top trainer. Not me. I don’t want to pay a ton of money just so my trainer and top trainer can “catch up” with each other.
So I didn’t tell my trainer about it.
Except, top trainer apparently called my trainer and told her I scheduled a lesson with her. So now, my trainer wants to know what’s going on.
In my opinion, trainer has no right to expect me to inform her of my plans with my horse. If the horse were in full training with her, then I could see that. However, my horse, my training, my goals… doesn’t require trainer approval or sign off on anything I do. Especially since it’s my money.
What are your thoughts on this?